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  1. Thank you for pointing me in the right direction (forum-wise) I really should know better though being a forum veteran several times over
  2. I've known about this site for a while but never felt a need to do anymore than read. Recently I came across a problem in which knowing more about Objectivism could help me and thought of coming back here and actually registering. I did make the mistake of not reading the faq's before posting. Possibly out of hast or perhaps just because I feel lethargic tonight. I was just recently introduced to Objectivism through my boyfriend. It was around this time last year that I started taking an interest in both him and Objectivism. I'm still learning and working on applying the philosophies into my life. As of yet I've not read a full book concerning Objectivism although I've read large portions of Ayn Rand. For less important information I'm a 19 year old girl who lives in California. I work at a gas station and attend community college.
  3. My boyfriend is an Objectivist and I am both studying it and working on practicing it in my life. I'm interested in it and right now the only experience I've had with it has been through him and the bits of Ayn Rand. I started Fountainhead but had to stop when I got too busy. He's just lent me We the Living so that will be my next project. I'm sorry if I sounded too much like one of the writers you see in the Ask Alice columns but I am both interested in possible advice for this situation and in learning more about Objectivism and how social situations like this tie into Objectivism.
  4. I've been told something that may explain why Les Mis is so long-winded....although it was just something mentioned in a conversation and I haven't any concrete proof of it. I was told that authors during Hugo's time were paid by how many words they have in a book whne it was being published. Becuase of that he may have added more than necessary.
  5. My current boyfriend and I have just celebrated our 1st anniversary. He was out to visit me from across the country. We met on the internet and I live on the west coast and he on the east. It's been an amazing year for me. He's my first boyfriend and the first person I met who was so honest and true to himself. He really was...is like a breathe of fresh air from rigid social expectations and all that good stuff. I love him dearly. The problem comes from combining him into my current life. This being his first time out to California he wasn't able to gradually work his way into everything like my family, my friends, etc. It's been difficult for both of us. Actually, the only reason it's been difficult for him is because I keep getting upset over things he doesn't think are important. While he was here I tried to share my favorite things with him. He didn't care much for some of the places. I wasn't sure that he would but I wanted to try. These were places that meant something to me. Places I've always had fun with growing up or places that interest me. He's always talking about everything he doesn't like though. Honestly I'd rather not hear about it all the time. I would be much more content knowing he doesn't care for the place and we move on but usually he says things like "Why would they do that? That's stupid.......this is awfull......etc..." It's difficult for me when I want him to be a big part of me life and I get upset when I'm trying to do these things with him. He wasn't always polite with my family either. I don't expect him to love them or even to like them. But I care about them and when he upsets them by being rude it also hurts me. Again I'm upset by the situation and he's upset that I care. I've tried telling him why I like my family....my reasons....why they make me happy. But he says that since he doesn't share those reasons it's something he then doesn't like about me. I told him I was going to post something on an Objectivist forum for advice and he told me the results would depend on the way I explained it. To be as honest as I can about this situation I'll include how he said he would explain it: He cares a lot about being honest and if he's in a situation where people think something of him that's not true he will tell them the truth. It upsets him that they would be upset by him telling the truth. He isn't going to be nice to people unless he cares about them personally. He isn't going to change.....I don't want to stop caring about the people I care about.....and we both love each other and want to live with each other... Please please PLEASE is there any advice someone could offer?
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