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    It is my mission to ignite the fire of the mind, the passion of genius. I am a source. I am a specialized fuel. Time is precious, she is not to be wasted.
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    There is opposition and misunderstanding to Objectivism. I see value here and also difficult places that need growth. Empathy toward opposition does more to build bridges of reason, bridges that can stand the test of time. From a darwinian perspective it isn't the strongest, nor the smartest who evolve, but the most adaptable to changing circumstances. Ayn Rand removed her DNA from the equation of 3.8 billion years of evolution.
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  1. Coercive School Photos

    I appreciate the time each of you has taken to respond. Writing it out and engaging like this is helping to clarify it in my mind. I can send the 21 photos back without buying, technically it seems like no obligation... the obligation is in the emotional manipulation. The garbage waste of so many printed photos is weird; when I was a kid, having your photo taken was a luxury. A photo of your child is a sentimental treasure, even if he is making a loopy face, it sucks throwing them out. It is awkward confronting the photographer, and the school, the time spent doing so, and my son being in the middle of it. You never know who is someones relative, I shouldn't care, but small town drama sometimes bleeds down to the kids. I also don't mind picture day in general, I am buying him a year book, I just don't like the way they are going about it. If I complain they might not take his photo at all. Thinking of burning them is a symbol of rebellion to the whole situation. Maybe it is a risk the photographer wants to take. I know from working for a couple years reproducing fine art, the material cost is probably $3-$5. They can recoup their cost if 20% of parents are susceptible (or interested) enough to pay, which is easier than raising a stink, especially when you don't have a philosophical foundation to consider. At his last school in Salt Lake City, the photographer had three shots, several backgrounds and a variety of sizes to choose from, they were available for order online before printing. Working to make picture day at school more objective is not as challenging as taking on the big problems of the world... I don't know... maybe I will take him down to the river for a photo shoot and print some good ones out myself.
  2. My kid came home with a package of school photos. There is a note with a price list that says: choose the photos you want, and send a check, and send back what you don't want. The package includes a calendar, book marks, key chains with my son's picture on them, 21 photos all together for $36. I don't like the photos, the photographer doesn't do a good job. My kid doesn't understand why I am upset, he is taking it personally, and will be embarrassed to return to school with them, saying his mom doesn't want photos of him. I didn't give them permission to do this. I also don't want to send the photos back, because I don't want them having photos of my kid. What are they going to do with them? Its such a waste and I just want to burn them. We take natural fun photos with our phones all the time, we don't need these. Should doing business this way be illegal? I would appreciate any recommendations on what I ought to say to the photographer, the school, or a higher official.
  3. Depression

    I am very physiologically affected by emotion, my own and the emotion of others. I don't want to change that about myself because I think it teaches me something. My mind returns to difficult emotions because I want to understand human nature. Objectivism helps me bring emotion into conscious terms. Ayn Rand once said "I very rarely had an emotion that took me more than a couple days to get to the bottom of." I am seeing more objectively the way emotions can be manipulated by or blamed on others. I was listening to an audiobook last year that was interesting. There is a space between what you experience, and how you react. In that space is the story you tell yourself. I can't remember the title.
  4. The Virtue of Selfishness is a 173 page book. According to me... It means self esteem, self respect, trusting myself, introspection, keeping my own counsel, doing the best I can, calling myself out on my own BS, learning. I don't always know if I made an irrational decision, when I notice or when someone I respect points it out, and I agree, then I correct it. Your self is your body/consciousness/memories, a sum total of everything you are and have been. I believe I am a Self first, the -ish follows. If I want to value rational values it is my self that chooses, and I gain confidence on that path. I don't agree with mullahs. Every woman I know has had their body trespassed upon by a man at some point. Having been inappropriately touched by strange men several times in my life brings painful clarity. In theory it is true that it is the man who needs to correct his behavior, not the woman who needs to cover up. But I won't risk my body to prove that point. I choose the level of protection I need for a given situation. Sometimes a bikini, sometimes layers and a weapon. A woman wearing a Burqa believes it is a symbol of honor, it ought to be her own choice, I wouldn't force her to wear it, nor tear it off of her. I believe in this world, as an objective reality, an orange is an orange and not my imagination. This reality contains irrational people and mystics who believe in other worlds. An Objectivist forces no one, but if forced, will respond with force. http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/selfishness.html
  5. Ayn Rand has redefined selfishness, you are using the definition of selfishness that is used by the majority of society, originating when mystics accused the self as the source of all evil. When a person acts against their rational self interest it is a loss of self that they experience. This confusion and disorientation happens to everyone, clarity and fog, integration and disintegration. Humans learn concsiousness by putting attention into returning to the path of rationality. It is painful, I would be horrified to witness that in person, and would probably have nightmares about it. In that moment it is in my self interest to do everything in my power to rationally talk them out of it. I cried once when I saw a video of a large man grab the back of this small girls sweater and pull her off of a ledge of the Golden Gate Bridge. I honestly can't say I think he was wrong. She appeared young and healthy, the possibility of her discovering a value worth living for is there. In another context some people suffer for years with chronic pain making it impossible to really live, if there is no hope of recovery, why force them to continue suffering? As an artist, I think the human body is beautiful, and have enjoyed nudity in a safe family friendly hot springs. I think of a similarity with taxes. Objectivists believe tax is theft, but we still pay our taxes, because we live in a society still largely dominated by mystics. It is a process of development. With greater rational freedom and responsibility nudity would become safer and more common. Women are at risk of being raped even when they wear cloths, the risk would increase when there is no physical barrier. It is a management of available resources. Humans are omnivorous. Where population density increases the incidence of vegetarianism increases, in some places the higher classes would ban eating meat in order to reduce competition for that resource. The further north you travel, the less vegetation available, the more dependent on meat those cultures are. A rational argument will not stop the irrational. Crimes happen every day that can not be stopped. Irrational selfishness has a way of creating enemies, and you risk retaliation. Objectivism is a philosophy chosen through self respect, if you want to be rational.
  6. Depression

    This is interesting, I often worry that my needs should not be a burden to anyone around me. I know the value of writing in a journal, but hadn't thought of it from the angle of unmet needs. I have avoided seeking a psychologist because of how friends had talked of their experiences, and the Zen/socialistic/egoless perspectives they took. I have some pride about figuring out my own problems for myself, its lonely.
  7. The value of apologizing

    A relationship that can recover from a struggle will be stronger for it. There is an art to genuine apology.
  8. Addiction: Coffee, TV, and laziness

    These are great points
  9. Elon Musk

    Mixed Premises... Yes Elon Musk chooses to be interested in societies concerns more than most Objectivists do. That is his choice, he has earned it. He is an engineer, a prime mover, an energy generator. If you want to believe he is your enemy, at least give him the respect of being an intelligent formidable enemy, rather than a straw man.
  10. Elon Musk

    SpaceX is making superior rockets at a quarter of the cost of NASA's bureaucracy. The US Government had been buying cheaper satellite launches from other countries, SpaceX is bringing that business back to the US. SpaceX is also on the way to launching Astronauts, which hasn't been possible in the US since 2011.
  11. Elon Musk

    Musk was on the forefront of developing and coding online map city guide software, and naively sold it for $22 Million. Paving the way for Billions in U.S. revenue through the use of similar guides that took his ideas. Musk built PayPal and made a mistake choosing his co-founders, then had it sold out from under him for $165 Million, the company is worth $100 Billion today. The US Government has earned billions off of the products of his mind. They didn't steal from tax payers, they took his money, loaned a small percentage of it to him and he paid it back to them again with interest. In this story by the LA Times (a publication for the collectivist agenda) they are patting themselves on the back, shifting credit, inducing the public to believe that he still owes them something.
  12. Elon Musk

    Getting states to compete with each other for who is going to fleece his companies the least (tax breaks) seems like the beginning of an Objective approach. The other subsidies are loans paid back with interest. The government needs him more than he needs them. Where were Objectivists when these companies were looking for investors? If a staunch Objectivist alive today wants to get to Mars, is it possible? It seems ambitious to envision your companies on the way to producing a quarter of a percentage of the GDP... Thats about $46 Billion. The technologies that need to be developed in order to get to Mars have a huge impact on advancing the technologies we use here on Earth. I think Ayn Rand's work has directly and indirectly inspired producers to defend their value, and rise to challenges. Unfortunately you make yourself an unnecessary target to collectivists who hate the version of her in their head, and it seems Objective to not throw your pearls before swine, and admit openly to being influenced by her. Edit:Typos
  13. Why follow reason?

    Take what you want and pay for it. The phrase isn’t “steal what you want”, but ‘steal’ is a connotation. If I want to steal I pay by being caught and having my hand chopped off, or by living with the self hatred of knowing I have betrayed reality. I pay for it with fear, with evasion with a loss of efficacy. I pay for it by not being able to look someone squarely in the eye. She could never take anything without paying for it. Take what you want is a challenge Ayn Rand made to her potential. Rand is giving herself a powerful abstraction that propels her toward the immense task of philosophically taking on the entire world. Taking on the dangerous challenge of defying mysticism, where many great minds have succumbed to tragedy. It gave her the fuel to reach for the culmination of every aspiration she valued, and she paid for it with endless hours of hard work, she paid for it by pushing herself to do better, to go deeper, to make things more clear, more concise. She paid for it with the pain of leaving her family to die in Russia. With every rise and fall she paid. She took what she wanted from life, she told herself she could, she challenged herself to it. And if she ever wanted to give up she knew she would pay for that also. You are in a grocery store you want an apple and some water, you take it to the counter and pay for it. To let the phrase be even that simple. It has a calming effect over fear, and doubt. Taking this all together as a broad abstraction has a focusing effect on the mind. She didn’t say it for you or me anyone else. Volition is an act of choice with knowledge of as many possible alternatives as one can hold in context and integrate. For 8 words to mean this much and more. Want one interpretation and pay for it with the loss of perspective on all others. Affected by a phrase that covers so much ground. A phrase that leaves room for each person to choose what they will attempt to see in it. A consistently rational person ought to be able to explore all of the possibilities of what something could mean and then choose from there. Sleeping with Nathaniel Love is the most personal, dangerous, and tragic… sometimes rewarding… experience anyone can engage in. It takes a great deal of courage. Do you care to share the tragedies of your love life with the public? Yes a price she definitely gets charged for. Forcing others is going against their volition, and they will irrationally rebel from a forced rationality. The only way to rationality is through volition. Why create a philosophy that forces people to be rational? Would it work? Knowing that people can be irrational, it seems rational to be as rational as you can without hitting them over the head. Especially when mystics are just waiting for any sign of aggression to give them an excuse to attack.
  14. Greetings from New York

    Welcome Enlightenment Now I think your context is a little different, but this led me to a thought I had. When Ayn Rand said she never met her match in a debate... I contemplated that she possibly debated herself at times in order to prepare for a hostile or complex question from a member of an audience. To think through an argument thoroughly enough to consider the opposing position, to be ready to answer thoughtfully.
  15. Greetings from Rust Belt Hell, USA

    Hi Sonic & Knuckles, welcome to the forum. I don't believe "They can do it, but I wouldn't." is a contradiction. It allows freedom to both parties. Gives them room to learn for themselves. If you legally restrict vices it only insights people to produce an underground rebellion, which feeds into an illusion of being smarter than the controllers they resent. I think it is more effective to appeal to a person's intelligence than it is to try to wrestle with their evasions, and lack of the context of their entire lives. Also, developing a healthy sense of life, and a conscious philosophical foundation is a lot of work, important work. The vices of others can be a distraction, especially from looking at my own inner contradictions.
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