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  1. What would you do in this situation?

    You write like someone who is absolutely naive about the realities of business, money, and life.
  2. Does aesthetics really belong in philosophy?

    I would say that, to the extent that one intends to live an interesting and fulfilling life, he should develop within himself the soul of an artist. Indulge greedily in works of art, yes — but more broadly, cultivate your personal values (what you like, enjoy, appreciate, etc.), and curate your life in such a way so that your daily existence reflects and embodies that which matters most to you.
  3. To "achieve immortality" is an unreal concept. Scientific advancements may aid greatly in the extension of life and the improvement of physical health. But it's really not conceivable that you'll ever see the day when your continued survival has been rendered so absolutely inevitable that you cannot die. It's inherent in the nature of life that some effort, some struggle is necessary for its maintenance. This struggle in the face of alternatives gives rise to the issue of values — and values, not death or mortality per se, are what make life meaningful and enjoyable. Countless human values don't directly contribute to man's survival and physical well-being, but this doesn't mean they don't have significant "survival value" — particularly when one understands that man is a conceptual being, with needs of the mind and spirit as well as the body.
  4. Clearly not, since the beginning of the development of psychology as a science predates the "full development of an objective, reality-based and fully integrated philosophical system." Here's a more fascinating question: Is such a philosophic system possible without at least some knowledge of man's psychological nature — e.g., that he is a conscious being who possesses volition and who experiences emotions? I say no. To arrive at valid philosophic insights, let alone a complete, integrated system, one must first have at least a general idea of whom he is philosophizing for & about. Put another way: You can't induce valid philosophic principles so long as you believe that it's possible, however remotely, that man might be an unconscious automaton. The entire field of philosophy rests on the idea that man possesses a psychological nature; a psychological dimension. To assert otherwise is to be guilty of the Stolen Concept.
  5. Does aesthetics really belong in philosophy?

    Esthetics concerns itself with two issues which are essential to a fully integrated philosophic perspective: metaphysical value judgments and sense of life. Qua branch of philosophy, esthetics studies the nature of art; its meaning and the role it plays in man's life. Esthetic principles, however, have application well beyond the evaluation of art works. Properly understood, they can shed enormous light on the way a man experiences himself, and how he sees himself in relation to the universe. Esthetics represents "the soul of philosophy." A person could conceivably attain a high level of awareness of Objectivist metaphysics, epistemology, ethics and politics, but lacking a clear grasp of its esthetics, he is unlikely to make Objectivism his way of life. Philosophy will seem somewhat distant to him — somewhat removed from his moment-to-moment existence. Ayn Rand was an artist, and in a sense she had to be. While you can learn a lot from her nonfiction (as well as Peikoff's OPAR and other works), if you haven't read The Fountainhead and Atlas Shrugged, you haven't yet experienced the full impact of the Objectivist vision. These novels are literary and philosophic powerhouses; they make their ideas real to the reader in a way no treatise or series of lectures ever could.
  6. My writings on romance have nothing to do with "traditional gender roles."
  7. (This is an article I wrote for my romantic advice blog for men, The Leading Man.) In 1981, The Pointer Sisters released a song called "Slow Hand." I strongly suggest you familiarize yourself with its lyrics: I want a man with a slow hand
 I want a lover with an easy touch
 I want somebody who will spend some time 
Not come and go in a heated rush You might have noticed that virtually every "pick-up artist" selling a course on the Internet emphasizes the importance of speed. Years ago, one of the first prominent gurus in this area had a program called Speed Seduction. A related online newsgroup became the virtual birthplace of the modern PUA movement: alt.seduction.fast. (I recently saw a website for a program called "Same Night Seduction" — presumably if you follow its instructions, you can meet a woman, take her back to your place, and have sex with her the very same night!) Why this near-obsession with things happening quickly? Because that's what guys want — particularly young, underdeveloped, immature guys. Young guys are horny. They're self-absorbed, obsessed with sex, and they want it now. The PUA gurus are selling, for the most part, to men's weaknesses. They tell guys what they want to hear, not what they need to understand. Sexy, seductive, romantic men take it slow. We've cultivated that "slow hand" that a woman craves. We're willing to "spend some time," as the song says. We're not in a "heated rush," unlike the crazy horn dogs! Of course, our goal is to form a meaningful, deeply erotic relationship with a woman — we want lasting connection. PUA's generally have one thing on their minds: "getting laid." Leading Men create a gourmet meal in romance and sex, not cheap fast food. If I had one specifically sexual piece of advice to share, it would be to embed the chorus of the Pointer Sisters' song in your memory, and mentally play it on a loop whenever you are looking to create an intimate experience. Slow the experience way, way down. Tune in to the woman you are with. Focus on creating pleasure for her; learn to enjoy immensely your power to make her feel good. If you are young & horny, this will undoubtably require some discipline on your part. But then, all of growing into maturity does. Being an adult in any area of life requires that you develop the ability to move beyond the gratification of the moment, and discover what will lead to long-lasting fulfillment and enjoyment. © 2013 Kevin Delaney
  8. Every one of us us "allowed" to ignore anyone we choose. I choose to ignore you. You are thoroughly dishonest, and you contribute nothing of substance to these discussions.
  9. What the hell are you talking about?? Ask me a sensible, non-hostile, non-dishonest question which pertains to the article I have written, and I'm more than happy to respond to it. Otherwise, I have no problem allowing my critics to have the last word in a discussion.
  10. That some people are gay (or bisexual, or transsexual, or asexual) is irrelevant to the meaning of my article, and to my broader ideas on heterosexual relationships. The only wrench being thrown is by those whose mission it is to make these fairly simple issues seem confusing.
  11. Here are the seven principles I'll be discussing at today's free Webinar: 1. A Master Seducer moves guiltlessly in the area of sex; he has no qualms whatsoever about seduction. 2. A Master Seducer is confident in his own sexual value. 3. A Master Seducer understands the role that fantasy plays in a woman's life — particularly her sexual life. 4. A Master Seducer is a sexual giver. 5. A Master Seducer sees seduction as a process. A Master Seducer takes his time. 6. A Master Seducer educates himself about a woman's nature, and her uniquely feminine needs. 7. A Master Seducer recognizes that Earth overflows with highly seducible women.
  12. The PDF I wrote to accompany this Sunday's Webinar on seduction contains a number of ideas which some people might find somewhat provocative . . . Here's an example: "A seductive gentleman seeks nothing less than to rock a woman's universe, and turn her world upside down. It's not enough for women merely to like us or be attracted to us; we have to reach & stimulate a woman on a deep psychological level." Statements like this are bound to make certain men uneasy. "Rock a woman's universe"? "Turn her world upside down"? Of course we want to make a big impression on a woman. But isn't this kind of language a bit extreme? As I use the term, seduction is an entirely benevolent and good process. But one thing it isn't always is nice. We're not here to be "nice guys" with women. We're here to be solid, seductive, romantic gentlemen. Our mission is to create a powerful, even possibly overwhelming feeling experience within a woman. For us, and for her, nothing less will suffice. Have you heard the song "I Feel the Earth Move," written & performed by Carole King? I feel the earth move under my feet I feel the sky tumbling down, tumbling down I just lose control Down to my very soul "Losing control down to your very soul" would likely be terrifying for a man — but King's lines, taken as a sexual metaphor, describe an emotion which is entirely positive, eminently desirable, and utterly, thoroughly feminine.
  13. Like a lot of guys, at one time I had a fairly negative view of the idea of seduction. As a kid, I remembered hearing about Darth Vader being "seduced" by the Dark Side. There was a book called Subliminal Seduction — about the ways that the media (purportedly) programs people's minds to make them behave in ways they ordinarily wouldn't. Another book, published in the 1950's, got a lot of attention: Seduction of the Innocent, which alleged that comic books were contributing to the moral decay of youth. Go to Google and type the word "seduce." You'll get the following definition: attract (someone) to a belief or into a course of action that is inadvisable or foolhardy. Good grief! TheFreeDictionary.com offers several definitions, some of which are a bit better: 1. To lead away from duty, accepted principles, or proper conduct. See Synonyms at lure. 2. To induce to engage in sex. 3a. To entice or beguile into a desired state or position. 3b. To win over; attract. So "seduce" can mean simply "to induce to engage in sex." It can also mean "to win over; attract." At Sunday's Webinar, I'll talk about the issue of seduction — romantic/sexual seduction — from a totally positive point of view. I'll share seven principles of a Master Seducer. One of these is "Sexual Benevolence" — the view of sex (and therefore seduction) as an entirely good thing for everyone involved. A seductive man is focused on creating positive feelings and exciting experiences, for himself and the woman he cares about. What could ever be wrong with that? Go here to RSVP, and download your 3-page PDF of notes for the program: http://www.LeadingManBlog.com/FreeWebinar
  14. Join me on Sunday, October 20, 2013 at 6:00 p.m. Pacific / 8 p.m. Central / 9 p.m. Eastern for a free, live & interactive Webinar, held in conjunction with my blog The Leading Man. I'll discuss seven key principles of romantic/sexual seduction for men! RSVP now, and get instant access to a 3-page PDF of notes for the Webinar. Some of what we'll cover: ▪ The importance of a guiltless attitude toward sex. Why doubts, insecurities & hang-ups can be a man's worst enemies in seduction. ▪ Being a "sexual giver" — why you must focus on creating an outstanding feeling experience for a woman, not your own immediate gratification. ▪ The role of time in seduction. Seduction as a process which cannot be rushed. ▪ A quotation from a famous female author which reveals a profound longing shared by many women. ▪ The "abundance mindset" — and how to handle rejection with aplomb! This program is free to attend, however you must RSVP. As soon as you do, you'll be able to download the PDF. Go here to RSVP: http://www.LeadingManBlog.com/Webinar I look forward to talking with you on Sunday! Please note: Although this program is directed primarily toward men, women are highly encouraged to attend & participate.
  15. Not necessarily. Eye contact, for example, tends to be a much more important issue for a woman than it is for a man. A man might fail to make eye contact out of ignorance; it feels awkward for him simply because he is not used to doing so. As you yourself acknowledge, a man can have certain "bad habits" which could give a woman who meets him for the first time a somewhat wrong impression of him. My article is not intended to instruct men who "completely lack confidence with women" on how to "mimic the appearance of confidence." I hope it sheds light on the issue of confidence, and helps a man to deepen his awareness of the subject by looking at it from a female perspective.