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Today I arranged an encounter with an escort, my first time doing so, with the full awareness that it was an act of evasion. Although she was a very attractive young woman, and I am a healthy young adult male not suffering from any form of ED, I did not get aroused during the session. Her breasts, though real and spectacular, were nothing more than meaningless rubbery mounds of flesh in my hands, and I felt ridiculous and embarrassed as I touched them, as would if I was groping a mannequin at the mall in view of the other shoppers. I felt nothing even as she performed oral sex on me, during the middle of which I decided to dismiss myself without doing anything more. Do you think my Objectivist philosophical convictions prevented me fromf feeling sexual desire for the girl?

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Today I arranged an encounter with an escort, my first time doing so, with the full awareness that it was an act of evasion. Although she was a very attractive young woman, and I am a healthy young adult male not suffering from any form of ED, I did not get aroused during the session. Her breasts, though real and spectacular, were nothing more than meaningless rubbery mounds of flesh in my hands, and I felt ridiculous and embarrassed as I touched them, as would if I was groping a mannequin at the mall in view of the other shoppers. I felt nothing even as she performed oral sex on me, during the middle of which I decided to dismiss myself without doing anything more. Do you think my Objectivist philosophical convictions prevented me fromf feeling sexual desire for the girl?

No, I don't think Objectivism would cause a straight person to not be sexually turned on by an attractive woman. Are you straight, do you get turned on by women more than you do by men?

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Try being with a girl you actually like. There are many reasons that can explain your response. I suggest taking a girl you like out and taking it slow.

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If your story is true you have my sincerest sympathies, but I do not believe your so called "Objectivist philosophical convictions" prevented you from anything, because I do not believe you have Objectivist philosophical convictions, precisely because you asked the question in the first place.  OF course having Objectivist philosophical convictions presupposes a level of maturity which you have yet to reach, which is understandable if you are a young adult.  In which case, please don't be disheartened you will learn with time and effort.

 

 

If your story is false, then you have my sincerest revulsion: and I hope you have proven to yourself clearly that you are the vile trolling irrational mystic/instrinsicist that you are.   

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I've always found it interesting that the prostitution business came up with with GFE as an add-on feature which typically involves an extra payment.

The "girlfriend estimate"? That seems to go right in line with the rest of the job -- a bunch of acting.

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The "girlfriend estimate"? That seems to go right in line with the rest of the job -- a bunch of acting.

"Girl Friend Experience". (I guess that's what you meant. Yes, it is more acting. Though it is offered by prostitutes, it -- ironically -- confirms that people are seeking more than a "physical experience" from sex.

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Whoops, I had to google it and I think I mixed up my results' terms. It's not exactly a "good faith estimate."

When I've talked with people who call sex "just sex," even they separate that from sex with someone they care about. It makes me believe there is a kind of scale that is different for everyone, of the amount of "caring" that needs to be present. It's probably linked to expectations for the sexual experience, too.

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On 8/11/2014 at 2:09 PM, never_seen_boobs said:

Today I arranged an encounter with an escort, my first time doing so, with the full awareness that it was an act of evasion.

Strictly speaking, this is a contradiction in terms. If you were fully aware of what you were doing, you weren't evading per se.

 

On 8/11/2014 at 2:09 PM, never_seen_boobs said:

Although she was a very attractive young woman, and I am a healthy young adult male not suffering from any form of ED, I did not get aroused during the session. Her breasts, though real and spectacular, were nothing more than meaningless rubbery mounds of flesh in my hands, and I felt ridiculous and embarrassed as I touched them, as would if I was groping a mannequin at the mall in view of the other shoppers. I felt nothing even as she performed oral sex on me, during the middle of which I decided to dismiss myself without doing anything more. Do you think my Objectivist philosophical convictions prevented me fromf feeling sexual desire for the girl?

It might surprise you to know that many men who hire "escorts" have similar experiences to yours, even if they have never heard of Objectivism.

Ongoing sexual loneliness can be terribly painful. If you've never experienced sex, you can feel like you're missing out on an essential part of life. (You are.) Under such circumstances, the idea of paying for sex — if only to see what it's like — can seem alluring.

I don't think what you did is immoral, but I'm not surprised that it made you feel the way it did. You may think you wasted your money, but actually you didn't. You learned a valuable lesson that you should never forget.

It's easy to think of sex as a physical experience with a strong spiritual component. In fact, the inverse is true. Sex minus any spiritual aspect — sex which is the result of a commercial transaction and is divorced from any larger relationship — is unsatisfying because it's essentially meaningless.

We think we want the physical elements of sex, and we do, to a degree, but what we really want is the spiritual meaning that those physical elements convey and represent.

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