Louise

Because you made the claim. I want to hear your reasoning. Through culture, through the behaviour of other women and romantic fiction. They might consciously emulate it because they think it's the good or they might learn it subconsciously. When they come across a problem in the relationship, women become emotional instead of rational and act on bad women's culture ideas they haven't learned to criticize in order to eliminate, thus drama.

I agree with you that relationships should be simple and happy. But women are taught to do drama. A healthy man will not put up with that. So if women want healthy relationships they have to change too. How can they learn to be better?

How is this an either/or? If a value is flawed but there isn't a better alternative is it rational to be unsatisfied? Why?

I was referreing to the bad behaviours you described, such as changing plans at the last minute, acting inconsistent or making random accusations. I have learned now that it's never as urgent to act as it seems. The more emotional I feel the more likely there's an irrational subconscious idea I'm about to act on and the more I need to calm down before acting. I need to ask myself "what do I gain in doing this" at all times and have a rational reply for it. How is testing good in a relationship? It seems better that each person acts as honestly and benevolently towards one another. I guess I misunderstood your dominant male premise.

I was doing this, not intentionally, not with a plan, not knowing why, but subconsciously. I wouldn't be able to identify it explicitly like you did. Very stupid behaviour looking back. I think I learned those irrational ideas from the romantic sub culture. I am not sure about the dominant male theory, though. Mutual agreement for mutual benefit should be the principle?