When She Wants to Rush Things In Romance in Relationships, Love, Sex, Romance Posted June 1, 2013 · Report reply You need much more than information about a person to decide whether or not they should become your exclusive romantic partner. You need a strong sense of who they are as a human being. What is their basic character and sense of life? Are they moral? How do they conduct themselves generally? Are they sweet, supportive, benevolent, kind — or is there nastiness and spite bubbling beneath the surface? Perhaps most important: How do their values & personality mesh with yours? These questions can only be answered by getting to know a person across time, and by the two of you interacting on a number of different occasions. It's kind of incredible that anyone would have to make the case for taking it slow in romance, but such is the state of our current culture. The things you say here are true but there is an underlying premise in these types of writings which is false. Making up an artificial prescription of how to act in order to "get the girl" is not right. I think that any relationship that was going to be worthwhile would not require such superficialities as limiting a date to a certain amount of time, or waiting a certain number of weeks to couple, or always saying the right thing at the right time. Trying to make these regulations around human relationships is tedious. Furthermore it is artificial in the same sense that the government regulating an economy and making rules of how people can interact is artificial and thus doomed to fail. To my mind human interaction is a more natural thing, which in pretty much all cases does not need a set of preformed rules to follow. What the real trick is, does not have to do with creating a certain appearance when you are first getting to know someone, the trick consists of finding the right person to begin with, in which case I doubt whether becoming a couple "too soon" or having the date run "too long" or appearing "needy" is going to affect anything.