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    Theg_01 reacted to Nicky in PTSD from relationship with narcissistic person   
    That sounds like your social anxiety, not anything caused by other people's shortcomings. That's one of many things a therapist will likely point out to you: it's not other people's job to alleviate your stress, it's your job to function in stressful situations.
    Everybody feels anxiety, and it's perfectly normal. Anxiety is only bad if you let it paralyze you. If you are able to act despite feeling anxiety, it can actually help you (it can make you more focused than if you were entirely relaxed and comfortable with a given situation).
    Obviously, there are degrees, and everyone needs to figure out what their threshold is for tolerating stress, but, in my opinion at least, a stress free life (never facing situations that make you anxious) is even worse than too much stress. You can always dial it back, if it gets too much. Getting into a habit of always seeking psychological comfort, on the other hand, is passive, isolating, and hard to snap out of. So it's better to push yourself, find out what your limit is, and then stay within your limits, than to shut yourself away from the world.
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    Theg_01 reacted to Eiuol in PTSD from relationship with narcissistic person   
    I'm only saying this from the perspective from just this thread, but nightmares and flashbacks are classic symptoms of PTSD. Dealing with those kind of symptoms is extremely difficult to do on your own, besides the fact trauma symptoms don't work anything like normal day to day stresses. Unfortunately, professional therapists really are the only option. "Home remedies" sometimes can make it worse, sometimes even reinforcing the really bad memories. At the same time, professionals who know all about PTSD know some really good techniques. And just so you know, the best PTSD treatments involve cognitive behavioral therapy, to focus your mind on different things. 
    What you're doing on your own right now is already off to the right track. It's important to recognize that someone else traumatized you - you may wish you left sooner, but he's the one who decided to hurt you. It helps to go out with other people. It helps to do other things than just sit around and think about what you went through. One thing you can do now is not obsess over what he did to you - whatever he did, you don't need revenge and you don't need to get back at him. If anything, a narcissist feeds off of your interaction. Cutting off contact probably truly is the worst thing you can do to him. And more than that, it gets you on track for your own life. 
     
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