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  1. I'm in the Philly area (live in Valley Forge, work in Philly) but I haven't heard of any meet ups. I will do some research and see what I come by. We could create our own group if we want also
  2. I was going to say a dollar sign, but looks like you guys got it covered
  3. Oh dear.. I may have to change professions if this thing passes.
  4. Of course it is ok to suggest readings! It's not ok to push or force someone to read Rands books and pursue O'ism, but if with some suggestion from you she continues to pursue it on her own, then you're in business! I was first introduced to Rand through someone I dated, so I have experienced this first hand and sure glad I did!
  5. That is a lovely idea about the letters! I am a Nurse and quite worried about what will become of the health care system if this bill is passed (although I already have a pretty good idea). Rationed care, then possibly rationed care-givers. I have no interest in working for a socialized health care system.
  6. I think JeffS made an excellent suggestion. You should talk to whoever decided to write that letter.
  7. WOW. It is almost like they are placing more value on the support staff (secretaries, janitors, nursing assistants) than the staff that is actually crucial to saving the lives of the patients. I can see why you are frustrated.
  8. This is shadesofgrey writing on offtotheright's computer. Apparently logging out is just too difficult Anyway, in the previous post I discuss how the producers are affected in the CURRENT setup. Part of your tax dollars go to subsidized government healthcare for certain individuals and part of it goes to social security, welfare, etc. So the money that you (the producer) earn, goes partially to those who did not earn it. So my question was since the producer will be paying anyway, would it be cheaper for them to pay for the vaccine up front or to pay for the people disabled by polio later. Incidentally, for example, in the state of Pennsylvania, all newborn babies are innoculated with the hepatitis B vaccine upon birth unless the parents choose otherwise against medical advice. That cost is borne by the taxpayer. So is it cheaper to pay for a vaccine at birth, or pay to support the effects of the disease later? Either way, under the current laws, we're paying.
  9. Yes, I would consider adultery "cheating" and therefore a deal breaker. I think adultery is incredibly disrespectful to a romantic partner and is grounds for dismissal from the relationship. I do think that depending on the circumstances, it is possible to work through something like this with your partner, but there is the risk that one or both parties will become very paranoid, distant or angry and the once fantastic relationship will dissipate. Communication and trust with a partner are some key factors if both parties intend to work through this.
  10. I can't think of a better reason to have sex with someone; You admire the person, share the same values and morals, and enjoy the person's company above any other persons. This sounds like the person I would like to wake up next to every day!
  11. I really like "I swear by my life and my love of it that I will never live for the sake of another man, nor ask another man to live for mine". I actually put this one on the back of a shirt I used to wear to the gym. I also like to think of the quote "By what right? By what code? By what standard?", especially when I hear someone talking about how they think they are entitled to a job, unconditional love, etc.
  12. Thanks everyone. I will continue this matter closed, even though some may still like to discuss it in the future.
  13. To answer some of your questions, I have spoken with him about this matter. Every time we conversed, it was initiated by me, and the need for communication was largely discussed. I found an enormous need for better communication in our relationship and wanted both of us to strive for it. On the contrary, he believes lack of communication isn't a problem. I didn't seem to pick up from his side of the conversation what the problem is, if not lack of communication. He basically doesn't want me to question him, and his reasons for not questioning me are that he trusts me. Please keep in mind that I do provide him with all relevant information about my whereabouts (irrelevant would be "I'm going to be in the bathroom for ten minutes") so he doesn't ever need to ask. To me, good communication basically eliminates the need to question the whereabouts of your partner (so they don't feel you are assaulting them every time they come home), their honesty, and their loyalty. Here, he stated that if I didn't trust him, then I didn't deserve to be with him. Imagine that... He really seems unwilling to try to better things, but I don't think he knows that if this continues, I will not stick around while he pretends to be Howard Roark- he admitted to trying to act like characters in Rand's novels. My issue with this is while I enjoy her novels and their characters very much, I have a problem with the relationships where lovers say something like "I want you, so I am going to effectively punish myself and not carry out my feelings even though I want to and you want me to. See you again in ten years or so." While I was talking to him, I was calm and careful with my words, whereas he was slouched back like a child being diciplined with his arms folded, and a very interesting added touch of constant exasperated sighs and eye rolling. This did not look good to me. I am not married to this man, but I do live with him. My name is not on the lease. I want him to want to help me fix what has gone wrong. I can't do it by myself.
  14. I want him so badly because he has so much to offer me in the way of knowledge and ideas. I know I can learn so much from him and have much to give in return. Funny, but when we were only acquaintences, after learning how I felt about so many things, he asked if I knew what Objectivism was. I then learned that what I believed most of my life had a name. Since then, my foundation has strengthened, and I owe it to him. In regards to whether or not he is telling me the truth, I have no way to know that he is not. (Fixed quote block tags. -sN)
  15. Didn't see this question before. Let's see... how is his attitude (and sometimes lack thereof) making me feel. Honestly (but not too honestly), I have felt like absolute shit and an absolutely worthless tearful mess until yesterday when I made a list of my main virtues (all 23 of them) and realized that I lived my life by every one of them. I was beginning to fall a bit short on "self-interest" though, and it made me realize that I needed to take a moment to redefine my character. I love who I am, and I love this man to pieces! I cannot continue to love him if he has changed his character and continues to not stand by his virtues. But I want him so badly, and I want this to work. I don't want to corner him, or intimidate him, but I do want some answers. Is it too much to ask your lover to open up to you, to share his thoughts, feeling, what/who he loves, and what he hates? Suddenly I feel as if I know so little about him...
  16. Did you speak about strip clubs at the beginning of your relationship? If his opinion is very important to you, you probably should have mentioned it at the start and looked at it as a deciding factor whether or not you wanted a relationship with someone who has views that you dislike.
  17. Good question. No, this is not my present attitude. I was attracted to the beauty of his mind initially (it was really quite remarkable). Since he has began to, in my eyes, spiral downward, I have still been making the same, if not greater efforts in our relationship to hopefully remedy the situation. The attitude I described would hold true with anyone I meet. Once I became aware of their severe contradiction of terms here, I would not be attracted to them. With my boyfriend, I have not known this behavior from him before.
  18. I just wanted to say that our relationship hasn't always been like this. How he initially acted is what attracted me to him. I would NEVER be attracted to the mind of a person that chooses to ignore the people he professes to love. As far as the pseudo Roark syndrome, I think the nail took a hit on the head here. It sounds largely what he could be experimenting with, since this has not happened before.
  19. My boyfriend (a fellow objectivist) barely responds to me whether I greet him or am speaking to him and will even walk away from me when I am speaking to him. He has no problem showing enthusiasm towards other people and professes to love me, yet he doesn't show it at all! He has even claimed he is indifferent to my presence! He believes this to be ok, and he tells me I should not show emotion if it is important to me Not sure if it is lack of integrity or what making this happen, but in The Virtue of Selfishness integrity is described as loyality to one's convictions and values, and it is the policy of acting in accordance with one's values, of expressing, upholding, and translating them into practical reality. It says if a man professes to love a woman, yet his actions are indifferent or damaging to her, it is his lack of integrity that makes him immoral. He doesn't seem to communicate very well, even when prompted, and he will not be affectionate (ex: holding hands or a hug). He claims I sometimes make him uncomfortable when showing affection, but he doesn't have a problem with sex. I take well to criticism...
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