desertlily

Kindly refrain from calling me names, Mr/Madam-no-manners-at-all!

Cool.......this must be a romance-novel-fantasy-discussion, because a knight-in-shining-armor has come to the rescue of the lady in distress. Then everybody changes the subject. Like my son's playmate, who, when confronted with something she doesn't want to hear, points up to the sky and says, "Oh!....look!!!.....a cloud that looks just like my punky-doll!" Meanwhile, the lady-in-distress has vanished. Because she wants to be able to write really dumb PC man-hate without ever being challenged. Rumpelschtolskin!

What I mean is that you stated as fact, that male heroes are the product of romance-novel-fantasies and that there's no such thing in real life. So do you believe that, or not? Also: you've exchanged your attack on "patriarchal values" to one on "the dominant male archetype".........so then I'd like to change my inquiry to: "Would you please describe the exact manifestation of this "dominant male architype"?

I've never once, read a romance novel, but I've known a lot of male heroes. I wish there were more of them.......why do you seem to devalue the concept? Also: what, in your perception, are "patriarchal values" in real life (as opposed to in novels)?

Self-abuse may not be the answer. How about this, for a stab in the dark: when I was a kid, a severe loss happened to me........for years, I couldn't face waking up and facing life again.........not until I understood the connection between the past and the present, after which waking up became totally normal again. Perhaps you've got some kind of trauma in your own childhood, Baseball?