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  1. Lots of good recommendations in this thread. I'm a huge fan of contemporary middle grade & YA fiction, so I can offer some more modern choices: The Inkheart trilogy by Cornelia Funke The Faerie Wars series by Herbie Brennan The Stravaganza series by Mary Hoffmann The Dalemark Quartet by Diana Wynne Jones (others by her are good, too, but these were my favorite) The Bartimaeus trilogy by Jonathan Stroud The Larklight trilogy by Philip Reeve (also enjoyed the first book in his Mortal Engines series but haven't gotten to the others yet) The Mysterious Benedict Society series by Trent
  2. Just to be clear: the context is a monogamous relationship in which I find the man worthy of not only my respect, but my worship. Obviously, neither one of us actually thinks that I’m a whore, and his calling me such in the privacy of our bedroom is not going to confuse either one of us into thinking that I might be. Sex, for a psychologically healthy woman, is about surrendering herself to the man she worships. It’s about submission. It’s about showing, in terms of a physical act, “You are so absolutely fantastic that you can do whatever you want with me—and I trust you.” Using demeaning w
  3. Dan, you said it quite well. Thank you. Incidentally, DPW said some smart and interesting things that I think are related about how physical attraction works specifically for women in this thread. The only post I can find right now about it is Post 125, but I thought there was another one somewhere, too.
  4. I have and will continue to date non-Objectivist men. In fact, I’d almost go so far as to say I prefer it, given the general selection of Objectivists. The large majority of Objectivist men I’ve met (of which there are many) are both repressed and rationalistic. They have a lot of trouble knowing how to treat a woman in the context of romance. In addition, many of them have the idea that Objectivism is all or even most of what matters. They are looking for their “Dagny,” and as soon as a reasonably attractive Objectivist woman walks into their lives, they want to take her out—regardless
  5. Yes, please! The more my guy talks, the more it turns me on. He should tell me what he's going to do and how much I'm going to love it. And I'm not sure what words/attitudes JLG is referring to, but I don't think there's anything wrong with calling me a whore or slut, either, because at that moment, that's what I want to be--his whore. I don't want him to be thinking about how smart I am. He should want me for everything I am, which includes--just as much as my mind--my body, and in the middle of sex, it ought to be all about my body. Plus, he should feel welcome to tie me up. There is not
  6. This thread seems to have died out a bit ago, but now that it's July I'm living in NYC, subletting & looking for my own place. If any real Objectivist in the area wants to chat/meet up with a fun 27-year-old girl who's been an Objectivist for going on nine years now (ohh so old), send me a message. Rationalists, anti-body people, and Kelley-ites need not apply. Love dancing to industrial/goth music a plus. :-)
  7. The reason Objectivism is capitalized has to do with the specificity of the content. It is capitalized because it’s a proper noun, which means: a specific, unique entity. In this case, a one-of-a-kind set of ideas. What that means is that you cannot pull any old idea out of a hat, add it to the pile, and say you're an Objectivist, or that that's Objectivism. Objectivism is an integrated whole, and can only contain the specific set of ideas that Ayn Rand delineated as part of her philosophy.
  8. I'm moving out there this summer. Anyone have any thoughts on whether it's feasible to park a moving truck in Queens or Brooklyn & do the move with a friend, rather than using movers? I don't know where I'm moving to yet, and I'm trying to figure out what the best way is to do this.
  9. Hey all, I'm headed to New York in a week and am wondering if there are any likeable Objectivist New Yorkers out there who might like to get together for drinks and/or dancing. I know a few people out there already but am hoping to meet others. I am considering moving out there next summer and would love to chat about pros & cons and different neighborhoods. If you want to know more about me, you can look at my intro on here (from way back when) http://forum.ObjectivismOnline.com/index.p...c=730&hl=ramare or send me a personal message. Rachael (Fixed url-link -sNerd)
  10. Pony Girl, Manav’s question was about how to know when to ask a girl out. He showed some confusion about whether it was okay to ask a girl out “only” because he was physically attracted to her. He seemed to think he had to know something about her values and character, etc. I’m saying that not only does her physical appearance tell him something about her values and character, but those two things are hardly separate. They are two sides of the same coin. You missed my point entirely. “Would you pick a guy because he’s eye candy” suggests that there is somehow a divide between attractivenes
  11. I have two main things to say about this conversation: the first is that everything Kevin said about women wanting men to approach them is correct, and please, please, please heed it, to any men out there wondering. Any woman who is even remotely in touch with herself romantically wants a man to come after her, not vice versa. Damn!! If I have to ask a man out, that's already a big fat red flag that he's not what I'm looking for--it's already clear to me that I am braver and more efficacious than he is. Francisco wouldn't have had to wait for me to ask him out--and wouldn't have wanted to wait
  12. Once long ago in the mythical land of Minnesota, there was a club of unbelievable size and astounding quality, associated with the U of M. Unfortunately, all of the excellent members of that club have taken wing to warmer parts, mostly due to educational pursuits. Except for yours truly, that is, who remains cold as ever. Recently a group of somewhat misguided unfortunates tried to resurrect said club, which is now, sadly, defunct, as you say. It must be the snow. And by the way, Iakeo, it's Objectivist. Capital O. Proper noun. Ayn Rand's philosophy, the one, the only. Always and forever
  13. Nothing better than the picture of Scrooge McDuck swimming through his money. Here's one from Walt Disney that I found funny in an odd way: "I have never been interested in personal gain or profit. This business and this studio have been my entire life." And one from that wizard of words, J. K. Rowling: "THIRTY-ZERO! TAKE THAT YOU DIRTY, CHEATING" "Jordan, if you can't commentate in an unbiased way--!" "I'm telling it like it is, Professor!" ~J. K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban
  14. I read a lot, mainly in the areas of fiction and history, especially history of science & the American Revolution. I enjoy a few authors already mentioned here, including Sabatini and Bradbury, but how about a few you might not have heard of or considered good reading possibilities . . . J. K. Rowling is amazing. She is second only to one other writer on my list of favorites. (Bet you can’t guess . . . ) Arturo Perez-Reverte is a Spanish writer whose literary mysteries have been translated into English. He is probably one of my favorite fiction writers, with The Flanders Panel being
  15. I have to say, I do agree. Over the last several years, I've learned a lot about relationships and about myself in response to men, and everything you're saying is very interesting to me, Kevin. The joking insults is one of the things that annoys me the most, and always has. It's definitely the mark of friendship and not of romance.
  16. Well put, Fred, and thank you. I agree with you. In addition, I am alarmed by the amount of rash condemnation of smoking as immoral by members of this board. I can see someone mistakenly thinking that it was careless behavior. But immoral? For pete's sake. The answer to Don's question, "What need does smoking fulfill?" is pleasure. Just that. Doesn't fill your stomach, doesn't help you get somewhere, doesn't help you make something--you're right. Just makes you feel good. Kind of like sex. Kind of like alcohol (although you could argue that this provides nutrition, you could easily get
  17. I can't help but think of the man who wore his formal clothes in such a way as to make the others appear as if they were masquerading in borrowed costumes . . . and yet played the hardest tennis game I've ever read about. *sigh* Would that he lived next door.
  18. Have you read the Journals of Ayn Rand? Chapter Five consists of her notes on the architectural research she did for The Fountainhead. She lists many of the books she read and her thoughts on them. Plus, the book is chock full of other fascinating stuff.
  19. Hi Corrine, Welcome to the board. (Can I say that even though I'm a "novice"?) You're lucky to have an English teacher who would turn you onto Atlas Shrugged, regardless of what she thinks of it. One of my English teachers in high school told my friend she would "grow out of it" when the friend was reading Atlas. I encourage you to keep reading Ayn Rand's writing once you finish with her fiction. Such books as Philosophy: Who Needs It and The Virtue of Selfishness really helped me understand Objectivism (and philosophy) when I was in your position. While I think there are many hones
  20. I like to be winked at. It might sound silly, but you'd be surprised how far a wink and a smile can go. And Betsy's suggestions sound great. In addition, contrary to popular opinion, I think a lot of women want to be admired for their physical qualities. I want my guy to be head-over-heels for my body—not just my mind. With feminism on the rampage, the emphasis on not treating women like “objects” has gotten out of control. I am my body, just as much as I am my mind. I have no problem with guys appreciating my sexiness. (Although I have no vampish pics for verification. ) Oh, and speak
  21. That would be the illustrious Minneapolis, Minnesota. No wonder you never knew.
  22. Hey! That's where I live! I've never seen it look like that, though . . . those are gorgeous, Patrick. I think I'll check out what else Mr. Jerins has done, too. As for favorites, you'll find me squarely aligned with the British neoclassicists, including Lord Leighton (you have to see the man's house in Holland Park; it's jaw-drop amazing), John William Godward, Edward Poynter, etc. I also like a few of the Pre-Raphaelites, especially Evelyn De Morgan. Contemporarily (hmm . . . word? ), Han Wu Shen has recently snuck his way to the top of my list. I also like just about anything made wi
  23. If by fascinating you mean held my interest and made me struggle to understand him, Gail Wynand, far and away. I still go back to puzzling over him every so often. If by fascinating you mean made me laugh, love life, and want to meet him, Francisco dear wins the day. Mr. d'Anconia takes the title for All-Time Favorite Fictional Character (as well as other, more minor, but equally fascinating titles, such as Coolest Name, Best-Looking In a Suit, and Plays Most Interesting Tennis Game.) Some other more minor fascinating characters include Ellis Wyatt, Steven Mallory, and Bjorn Faulkner
  24. No kidding, very fun! I eagerly await its publication.
  25. Tryptonique: You ignored several of the points I made, and acted like I provided no evidence for my claims, when I stated outright that the evidence is in the lyrics. Did you read them? Have you listened to Eminem? Your post was a giant rant, bad grammar flying everywhere. I don’t have the time nor the desire to pick it apart piece by piece. I think that if you read both my post and the Eminem lyrics carefully, you’ll find that I have already answered your points. And wherever I didn’t, it’s because you’re acting as though I said something I didn’t. (Just as one example, I did not suggest t
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