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  1. Well, some people might say I am frugal/cheap, but I say I have very high standards. I will only tip if they give exceptional service. Otherwise, I won't tip. I honestly do not understand why someone would tip even though they got average to poor service. To me, tipping is a direct statement of their quality of service.
  2. Thank you both for your encouragement, and appreciation. Felipe, I think that "Shaping ones surroundings in the image of one's values and sense of life" is the only thing to do if you are a value oriented person. It has taken a lot of work to even come to the point of actively pursuing values and having that as your main orientation towards life. Yes, I have surrounded myself with beautiful art, amazing people and knowledge. But it still takes a lot to not let the negativity of the world bother me. Burgess, You are most certainly welcome. And I want to say, Thank you, for being an inspiration to me. From what I know of your writing and what you write about, you are a very worthy role model. I love to read all your posts. They wonderfully exemplify good, clear, prestine thinking. I learn a lot from what you have to say. ~Carrie~ AKA~ free spirit
  3. There is something on a small scale that I am nonetheless proud of that I did last week. I am a hairstylist, and there is a forum for hairstylists that I am a member of. It's forum where we talk about everything that has to do with the industry, from new haircutting techniques, colors, products ect.... One day last week, I log on, and see this awful thread called "A series of unfortunate events". (!) The description was "Ever had a bad day where everything seems to go wrong? A color turned out bad, you get a moody client, your haircut is off....?" Well, needless to say I was very repulsed at this topic. I can understand healthy venting where one can let off steam, and get constructive advice/discussion, but not a place where one just complains! So, I wrote an e-mail to one of the moderators, and suggested we have a thread that discussed our achievements. Where we discussed why we are in this industry, what we love about it, and what our goals are. I told her that I think it would be great to be able to brag and share stories of our success, and accomplishments. So, there is now a new thread entitled "I am so proud of...." I am personally proud of this because I have done something to bring my values into my world. Let me elaborate. Aside from many other things, I want a world where I can wake up, and be surrounded by proud people who are achieving, positive and are benevolent. I want to be able to share my successes with people who are worthy and can appreciate them........ So everytime I look at that thread, that is what I think of, and I smile to myself and love how receptive people have been to it!!
  4. Dave, What exactly is e-crushing? Groovenstein, LOL, no comment............. ~C~
  5. Unconquered, "Average dpression" is what half or more than half of what society expereinces. It is the feeling of hopelessness, of worthlessness. The total absence of any self-confidence. Malevolent view, fatalistic view. The feeling that life isn't worth living. The person doesn't want to do anything, doesn't want to work, bathe, clean achieve, nothing. Total lack of motivation, values, and often contemplates/ attempts death. What do you mean by SSRI drugs *work*. If my serotonin levels were unbalanced like the doctor said they were, why am I no longer depressed? (Without the drugs) What depression are you talking about? What are it's characteristics? Correction: I don't want to generalize. "Average depression" is what half or more than half of society experiences to some degree.
  6. JMeganSnow, Interesting question!! I have never been really scared of death. Before Objectivism, I have never realized the true beauty and value of life like I do now. When I think of death now, I feel a huge sense of sadness, a sense of a huge loss. I don't want to leave, I love being alive, I don't want to miss out on anything. I could easily live for another 3-4 hundred years. I would learn and do soo many things!! I don't ever want to leave, but I wouldn't have it any other way, because like you mentioned, "it is only the concept 'life' that makes values possible." Kind of bittersweet...... ~Carrie~
  7. Unconquered, I would have to disagree with you on a certain level on this. Excluding Alzhiemer's, Autism, (Shcizpohrenia) ect...... I think that average deprssion CAN be overcome by a rational mind, and with the help of a rational psychotherapist like PhD. Ellen Kenner, or PhD. Michael.J.Hurd. I have had personal experience. I was diagnosed as "depressed" about 5 years ago. I went to a psychologist, and was put on Paxil because I was told my "ceratonin" levels were unbalanced. I went through a very dark period which I won't get into here. But the point is, is that after getting introduced to Philosophy, studying psychology on my own, and having the courage to face some nasty demons, I made the choice to live and overcome it. I truly believe that alot of depression can be overcome by a rational mind, and the will to live. (Mind you many other things are involved, but this is where you would start). I am still deciphering to exactly what level we have volition in regards to other mental diseases like shizophrenia ect..... I understand that Alziemers and Autism are biological mental diseases and I'm glad that there are medications for that. But , I'm talking more along the lines of depression that people would take Zoloft, or Prozac ect... for. ~Carrie~ <<<Edited to fix broken quote--JMeganSnow>>>
  8. Hey! This first picture is of my friend and I, when we went to Montreal. I'm on the left! The second is of me at my friends cottage! Ahhhh, that cottage was soo beautiful!!
  9. Yes, there is a difference. Allow me to illustrate from my personal experience. Before Objectivism, I had a peculiar "need" to be with someone, I felt anxious and confused if I didn't have anything to do. I externalized myself so much (focussed on other people) that I never listened to my own wants, needs, thoughts and desires. Just a constant pressure of what other people were thinking. Now, after Objectivism, I absolutely LOVE and cherish my alone time. As I've gained my independence, I feel like a solid person with a very rich personality with many facets. I find that the kind of value people now give me is reaffirmation of my values. I learn from them, I get a certain type of uplifting energy when I spend time with my loved ones. I am a very social creature, I love people!! They're great! But, the important thing, is now there are ME and THEM. Not just them.
  10. Excellent point studentofobjectivism. I myself used to do that, and as a result, the conversation couldn't go much further than that because I hadn't thought it out. I thought that somehow the statement was self-explanitory.
  11. I think an Objectivist is someone who is rational all the time. They are constantly focussing on the facts. They are always thinking about something, and trying to figure things out. I don't mean that one always needs to be calculating crucial formulas, but they do need to be focussed on reality. I also think a constant active expansion of the mind is another requisite. This process and rationality go together. You can't learn if you aren't focussed on the facts. That being said, the same goes for applying the virtues. You are obviously NOT an Objectivist if you are holding a contradiction. The beautiful world of Benevolence and serenity we all seek to attain mentally, I think is aquired by a process of making your views, convictions and values solid. Most Objectivist think they are going to have this benevolent view by just studying Ayn Rand. There is so much more to it than that. For example: I know some of some Objectivists who are always angry and disgusted with the world, in some cases, this is justified. But if you don't aquire independence from them, not care what they do or think and focus on your values, you will be blind to the beauty you think you are fighting for. This process takes a long time. Not everyone can be Objectivist instantly. But I do think that whatever your level, as long as you have the requirements stated above, you qualify.
  12. Ahhhh....... I thought this topic would never come up!! Being a hairstylist, I feel right at home in this topic! ;D Although I am able to do make-up, my expertise is in hair. Allow me to make a few suggestions on facial shapes and hairstyles. The ideal facial shape is oval. In any hairstyle, this is the look you are trying to create. If you have: - A round face - Go for hairstyles that are either above or below (preferably below) your chin. If you get a chin length bob, it will bring attention to the roundness by framing it. Get some soft layers around the face. It softens the shape and hides a bit of the roundness. Always go for a textured (slightly wavy) style. Dead straight hair is not usually flattering for most people as it draws attention to facial flaws. - A big forehead - Fringes or bangs are THE solution to this problem. Depending on your size, get light wispy bangs. If you can handle it, go for a more solid perimeter with a little texture to add movement. - A long narrow face - Go for a shoulder length cut. Longer hair will just draw you down, adding to the elongation of your face. Ask for lots of layers (depending on your hair type) to create width in the cheekbone area. - A small face - Short! If you have fine or smaller features, try to have lots of layers around the face to open it up. I find that too many faces are hidden on small people due to the amount of hair. Don't have too big of hair else it will overwhelm your frame. Stay tuned..... for prt. 2!! --- Color!! (And a continuation on cuts)! Any questions on beauty, please feel free to contact me!!! Take care~~ Carebabe! P.S I've been in the industry for 6 years ;D!
  13. LOL Jose! I wanted to clarify that I wasn't talking about you! ( I would never be so presumptuous!) I was talking as a general principle!
  14. Yes, I agree. I think that if you aren't telling the other person what you need and want, you aren't being selfish enough. And for someone to give thier all in the relationship, they need to be "at their all" if you will. You can't have a relationship without a strong self..... And I think it's better to wait and actualize your potential than to call the whole thing off, when all along you were right for eachother....
  15. I used to have those "mood swings" also. My doctor put me on medication for it. Now, after having discovered Objectivism, I know there is no such thing as an imbalance. I just needed to root out my contradictions and introspect. I have a question. Why does the issue of repression keep coming up among Objectivists? I mean I've even found in myself that I've been hardening towards people. I know that is wrong because I think that is a form of generalizing, but I do know most people deserve it. I've been keeping a close eye on myself, and have noticed that when I'm at peace with myself, or focussing intently on my goals, or just brimming with joy at being alive, it's like people don't even affect me at all. Right now I'm focussing on trying to be in that state constantly. This Objectivist Psychologist Edith Packer talks about "core evaluations" aka. core premises about yourself, reality and other people. Now I think that these evaluations are somehow interrelated. From my experience, when things are going great in my life, I feel confident about myself, my view of people changes to be benevolent. I focus on all the great things about the Human species and remind myself that even thought there is a lot of irrationality out there, man is still fundamentally a rational animal. It's kinda funny, in my experience, I've learned that if you have a certain idea in your head that you believe is possible, your brain will look for instances to validate that idea, so if you have the idea that people suck and are not worthy of your time or effort you react to that physically ( you tense up, you don't smile, you aren't relaxed) and psychologically you can become bitter, irritable, unhappy. I think that the antidote is to strengthen your values and fall passionatley in love with them and the experience of being alive, enjoy people for what they DO have to offer and learn, learn, learn!!!
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