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bluecherry

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    bluecherry got a reaction from Jake_Ellison in Why do people have children?   
    I find it kind of funny it looks like I'm going to be one of the first to answer this, since I really just generally hate kids and am going to make damn sure I never have any. XD

    Anybody who goes into parenting for the right reasons at least doesn't do it with an explicit thought about "passing on their genes." If that was the reason, no infertile people would still want to adopt. People who go into parenting, when they do it for the right reasons, are motivated by a desire pass on not primarily their genes, but their knowledge and their sense of life. They, may take great pleasure and pride in watching a person start from basically nothing and see how that kid develops slowly but surely and what the child will accomplish and what kind of person they will become from the combination of what you put into raising them and what they experience in life and what the child themselves will choose of their own volition. I think parents who get into it with the right motives have to have a good attitude toward human potential and themselves and from this want to make some kind of living product of a human potential grown up by them in the atmosphere they can make for that child based on what they can give them of a sense of what the world and life and people and so on are and can be like. For people for whom any romantic partner is part of the equation, it may be partly about also that they evaluate their partner's sense of life and its likeness to their own as so good they want it to be part of that project. In the case where they do produce the child biologically together too, part of it may be a little symbolic value in having the child quite literally produced from the two of them and, if it doesn't require something special medical intervention to get the job done, in an act born of their love for each other, their own high estimates and values for each other and what kind of people they are.

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    bluecherry reacted to RationalBiker in Hiring Moderators   
    The critical distinction missing here is what you are intending to keep is on someone else's property. As such, if a person intended to keep their car on my front lawn, I would not respect their wishes if I didnt' think it served the purpose of my front lawn.

    One of the limitations of posting on another person's property is that it is subject to being removed at the wishes of the owner or designee.
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    bluecherry reacted to claire in I'm seeing a girl who has a boyfriend...   
    Ben, it seems you've only known the girl for two weeks (in my opinion, not enough time for her to be staying over, but that neither here nor there.). Two weeks is a very short period to time. If there's someone else in the picture, of course she's going to be conflicted in her feelings. You two can hardly know each other at this point, and maybe that's what you should be concentrating on. Give her some space, share a meal, go to a movie, yada yada yada. Get to know each other, for pete's sake. And did you expect her to come without a past. There's an old boyfriend in her life whom she still has regards for. What's so weird about that? God may have made the world in seven days, but as far as I know, he still doesn't have a girlfriend, so creating a relationship just takes a bit more time.
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