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  1. Continuing on with the original subject of this thread: I think desire might have been a poor word to use. What I meant by using it was "a willful drive". I do believe that honesty would help in this regard, but someone simply telling you "I wish you knew more so we could talk about something different" probably isn't the best motivator. If a person wants to continue improving himself over the course of his life, regardless of marital status, I'd say he's better off. Additionally, I would add Priority to a successful marriage. Making time to be with your spouse, even when it's d
  2. I have ;> And the way you describe it almost seems like it would fit perfectly into a Monty Python script I remember one particularly funny old SNL skit (though it might have had Chris Farely (sp?) who I generally dislike) where three or four people were in the kitchen eating breakfast. One of the guys takes a swig of milk straight from the carton then revulses and exclaims, "uhg! This milk is sour! Hey Billy (I don't remember the exact names/quote), taste this." So Billy takes a swig of the milk and repeats the exact same response. The first guy then sits down on a chair but q
  3. ...not what? I hesitate to use an analogy here, but previous posts seem to show that pointing out the ideas behind what constitutes a mistake were perhaps, not given careful consideration by the above poster. By your definition of mistake, all of childhood is a mistake. When a child selects blueberry ice cream with gummi worms and chocolate cookies at the ice cream shop because he is making the assumption "I like all these things. I will probably like them all together", he is not ignoring any fact about himself. He is acting within the context of his knowledge. After he eats it,
  4. I liked the Jeopardy/Galt joke ;> It could be that I'm approaching all this from a different mind set, but is this an appropriate generalization? Do all people that tread the course of transition towards Objectivism feel that their lives are filled (even slightly) with bitterness? When I look back at my past, I see a life that could have been better if I was more aware of these values explicitly. Should I be bitter? I don't see how that is helpful to me in anyway. If events went wrong, I acknowledge that, change and move forward. The only harsh experience I've had so far as a dir
  5. I agree with what appears to be the Objectivist stance here. Meaning, I disagree with Inspector. A mistake in the context of a willfully entered relationship could only be described as such if there was purposeful evasion of values. That does not mean that if a relationship ends, it was not a failure. But that also does not make it a mistake. In my previous relationship (started 8 years ago) I was very similar in values to my then-boyfriend. We had similar interests and outlooks on life. I see no mistake in pursuing a relationship with that context. However, the relationship was a fa
  6. That must be a really horrible feeling. I've been trying to soften the eventual blow with my own parents for the time (at some unknown point in the future) when I choose to get married. While in high school, I attended my cousin's marriage (she's much older than I am.. by about 15 years I think). The weird thing was that my cousin and the groom were technically already married. They had a civil ceremony. My uncle was apparently so disturbed by this fact that he paid for a second wedding to be held in a church. At some point during this vacation, my own father relayed his hopes for me
  7. 1. Ayn Rand (100%) 2. Kant (61%) 3. Jean-Paul Sartre (58%) 4. Aristotle (56%) 5. David Hume (54%) 6. John Stuart Mill (54%) 7. Nietzsche (54%) 8. Stoics (48%) 9. Plato (47%) 10. Cynics (46%) 11. Thomas Hobbes (46%) 12. Aquinas (45%) 13. Prescriptivism (43%) 14. Jeremy Bentham (40%) 15. Spinoza (40%) 16. Epicureans (37%) 17. St. Augustine (36%) 18. Nel Noddings (29%) 19. Ockham (23%) I'm rather worried about my results, excluding the number one slot. Looking through these respons
  8. This reminded me of the Woman President thread and article. I'm not specifically interested in bring that up in this thread, but would you (or anyone) happen to know if Miss. Rand (or any prominent Objectivist scholar) wrote anything regarding Queen Victoria's relationship with Prince Albert? I recently saw a piece of fine art and learned a bit about their story. I was very touched :>
  9. I would like to re-ask a question I posed earlier. The responses I received with regard to the femininity/masculinity were wonderful, thank you. I still find myself hesitant with the term "worship". Perhaps it's because of all the negative association with religion, but I don't have much experience with it in any other context. Is it offered in strictly a sexual context or is it an encompassing view of how a woman might view a man? If it's the latter, why doesn't this apply in reverse? His drive and ambition is certainly something to admire and to desire him for. But doesn't the man als
  10. I have to admit that I am totally shocked that so many people think that the dating advice given by DPW is good, much less rational. Yes, I cheated too. Honestly, I spent a good deal laughing as well. The first question that arose to my mind was, "What kind of woman does he think he's going to nab by playing these outrageously manipulative, counter-productive games?" Do you really think the woman who is intrigued by the insult that she is FOURTH on your list is someone with a strong sense of self-esteem? I can't seem to get over the idea that this advice is geared toward an Objectivist
  11. Mr. Delaney, thank you for your reply. I will start by saying that I have read some of your ideas on your personal website and do not agree with all of them. (But a point by point is best saved for a PM.) However, your post still made me smile with thought. Yesterday I was thinking about my entire relationship with my current boyfriend and I realized I had left out the initial pursuit in my analysis of my actions. I remember now, very distinctly, the great lengths he went to get my attention and keep a conversation with me after we had initially met. (It's actually a very charming st
  12. If I may, I would like to continue this topic. I too find myself put off by the seeming imbalance on the ideas of romance but have been desperately striving to understand them since my first encounter. (I'm very interested in Objectivism and happen to be dating an Objectivist) I see value in many of the viewpoints expressed, but I don't know how to interpret statements like the above. Am I lacking in femininity just because I had the courage to "pursue" my current boyfriend? (In essence, I had to let him know that I was actually available. I will explain further, if necessary.) Does thi
  13. Thank you for your correction. It is perhaps irrelevant, but I might have mentioned above that my major is not history, and certainly not economics. Still, I would prefer to be correct in my language and understanding.
  14. I have to take two U.S. History courses as part of my core curriculum before graduating. The university I currently attend only allows Juniors, Seniors, Masters candidates and Doctoral candidates. All this means is that there is no "basic" course, as those are almost always saved for the freshman level. Looking at last semester’s offerings of special history topics, it seems I missed out on a class called "Big Business". The same gamble probably applied to that as well. As it is, I struggled to find another class to switch to, but none that would fulfill this requirement fit into my sch
  15. I'd like to first learn about the major events that occurred during this period, as I would with any history class. Unless the undercurrents of a society came to the front of the stage, such as women earning the right to vote, it seems almost like avoidance to start with information about how daily people lived (which supposedly is the case with the historical fiction book, Ragtime). In my Ethics class last semester, I was able to more clearly understand each of the various systems, and their flaws (and why those flaws were so important/dangerous, not just "mistakes") because of my beginni
  16. I recently began the spring semester at my university. This particular school is heavily liberal but my previous semester proved that objective content is possible. (That the university is liberal is not my reason for attending, but without droning on about personal information I will just mention that it is not possible for me at this time to switch schools.) I'm very excited about this semester as I have a wide range of classes, many of which deal with classical subjects. I was also looking forward to one of my U.S. History requirements. We have a relatively small choice at this schoo
  17. I gave one of these to my boyfriend. (He doesn't live in the U.S. ... yet!) He was very pleased with the image as well
  18. Good point There is something about the culture and history I like quite a bit (but won't attempt to explain here) and the language is a challenge I don't want to miss. I'm enjoying little moments of "oh! I get it!" as I progress. As for Houston, the worst thing about it is the weather. My commute is unusual because of my personal situation. I've had jobs that were less than 10 minutes away in the past ;> Dallas is just as nice (though I'm not sure their arts/theater districts are as large, and definitely not their medical centers). So far, there isn't a major city in Texas that
  19. And certainly not while driving 50 miles each way Luckily, I've arranged my schedule so that as much as possible, I avoid rush hour. Thank you for the welcome and happy "fall, finally"!
  20. Bring on the Cajun spices! This is an excellent plan!
  21. Thank you again to everyone for such a warm welcome! Oldsalt, I was not born in Texas. However, I was moved here at the age of 2 1/2 and have been here ever since. (Incidentally, I am trying to learn Japanese!) Unfortunately, some of us (or at least I) can no longer do this. The same person who banned Dr. Speicher, also banned me. But like oldsalt mentioned, it has moreso spoiled my opinion of that particular person, than of Objectivism. His actions then have caused me to be very quick to dismiss his particular posts, but they have not pushed me away from learning more about O
  22. I'll keep that in mind, but my usage is technically correct. I used it only as a title of courtesy, not to infer girlish or neo-feminist ideas. As per the etiquette of respecting one's wishes, that will certainly be kept in mind. dictionary.com "Ms"
  23. If the behaviour that I witnessed is an everyday occurance, I'm sure that would be a depressing statistic. As much as I like forums, I have to admit that I "grew up" online at talker communities (similar to MUDS but without any roleplaying). I greatly enjoy real-time conversations, especially on topics with participants who have a great deal of knowledge. I don't believe that anyone should be forced to put up with purposeful insanity or rudeness, but as I don't believe that was the case, the experience left a sour taste in my mouth. The forum and the chat channel have been my first ex
  24. Very nice work This reminds me a bit of George Winston's piano work. (I absolutely love his Plains album) For improv, I think it has quite a bit of character. Good theme variation and overall structure Thank you for sharing.
  25. This is slightly off topic :> I had the privilege of attending a Montessori school through grade 5 and I loved every minute of it. Our school had a 6th and 7th grade, but I due to special circumstances*, I was unable to continue the program. I remember the 6th graders were reading Lord of the Flies, and it struck me as sad, and funny, that the public school kids read that same book only in 10th grade GT (gifted and talented) English. The Montessori program was fantastic. I was doing Algebra, and critical analysis of stories by 3rd grade, and creative writing in 4th grade. (I don't
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