How does one determine what is necessary and what is not necessary to discuss during conversation? I moderate my words and how much I reveal by social instinct at the moment but it would be nice to get some deeper theoretical understanding, if that’s even possible. I’m hoping I can guide myself to better, more enjoyable and productive conversations.
I started recently mostly putting my heart on the line (barring unnecessary details) to let people either hate me or love. Saves me, and them time. I don’t mean I just go up to a random person and blurt out details about my value and life. I fit it into the natural flow of conversation as much as I can and gauge reactions. I don’t want people in my life who think I’m weird for wanting/thinking about growing as a person.
If I was in a work/corporate job type atmosphere I might never discuss what I’ve discussed here or in my other posts. This is instinct - but I think it’s because it’s irrelevant to the context. We are there to work together on something - not discuss politics, philosophy or life values. Sometimes some banter/chatter is okay - like sports - to make us connect a little more. However, with my friends I want them to know. I don’t want to hide the fact I think and introspect alot about philosophy / self-development. If they think I’m weird or silly for thinking about these things - I almost never want them in my life or around me. Only a few weeks ago I used to have many people like this in my life and I’ve finally decided to leave them.