The audience to which you are speaking matters. If the forum is formal, such as a classroom or work place, there are certain protocols one must observe. If the forum is less formal, such as your chosen confidential associates from school or work, family, or friends, the conversation would be more open, of course.
Free speech is under attack in our times. Campuses, once an institution of open ideas, have been restricting free speech as a measure to prevent “offending.” In the work place, there have been too many times where an employee files a complaint that the company is creating a “hostile environment,” by allowing free speech construed as harassment. These limits on free speech should perhaps be threshed out under a separate thread.
I have had such an experience of offending a work associate on more than one occasion, quite unintentionally. I recall one such case in particular. Knowing how the rules of my employer would put me at a disadvantage, I addressed this co-worker, without apology, saying simply that I shouldn’t have said that “offensive statement,” and we should let it go. The fact that this person demonstrates an unusually high sensitivity to open discussion of ideas, I choose to speak to him as little as possible, and only when necessary, and only then with specifically chosen words. Work environments may exercise their policies to “shut up” unpopular employees.
Had I had the opportunity to speak outside of the work place with him, it would have been entirely different. Claims to the effect that what one is saying “is offensive,” is little more than name-calling, and demonstrates a lack of any rational contradiction to one’s statements. My response to this is: “You have no argument.” "You have no argument, so you resort to playing the victim, (or when appropriate, point out that they are merely name-calling, not making a rational argument.)
4 hours ago, Not Lawliet said:
I haven’t quite had that experience yet myself, but witnessed it around me. My response would have to be replying that such a criticism of what I have said is offensive. I would go on to be sarcastic, saying that I feel attacked and marginalized.
The simplest axiomatic statement can be called into question by just about anyone with an emotional disagreement. Using the same emotional response with sarcasm may be appropriate among friends, but in the frontier of ideas, I challenge my detractors to “dare to face the truth.” And if they can’t provide a rational argument, it is because they have none. And they should be made aware that they have no rational argument. If rational ideas and free speech are to survive this age of political correctness, it will not be through passive aggression.