To play devil’s advocate a bit:
Most Christians I know or have talked to do not have a problem with the concept of a civil union with the exact same legal benefits/ramifications as a marriage. Religionists seem to have a problem calling it marriage because to them, marriage has throughout history been a traditionally religious institution, and I can honestly see where they are coming from. They see it as an attack on their value system.
*If* a civil union bestows the same rights as a marriage, then it IS equal, despite what you call it. It also placates religionists who get riled up about homosexuals using the word marriage.
If it is a negotiation, that means it is up to the majority whether someone can marry, and then it’s not a right, it’s just a nice gesture on their part gays should somehow be grateful for.
Rights should not be up for vote, or even political debate. They should be settled in a court of law: that’s why the californian attempts to legalize same-sex marriage are hopeless: instead of making it a rule or a procedure, prove that it is a right, and set a Supreme Court precedent, like Roe v. Wade.
I understand that’s not going to happen in the near future, because of the makeup of the Court, but those judges are going to be dead soon, and if they really want to, the democrats could appoint a few gay-friendly judges.( I would of course suggest pro-individualism judges, if you want to make it stick, by having strong principles and similar rulings on other issues, to back up the decision, with more than just their political colour or background)–For instance the justices that ruled on Roe v. Wade did so in the name of both science (which held that embrios are not human) and individual rights(in this case mostly feminist ideas, I think, but still valid principles). Had they done it because they had friends with pregnant daughters or abortion doctor relatives, the ruling would’ve been overturned in a few years.
I realise it’s a longshot, for one it’s going to be quite a catch if they find a couple of left leaning judges-one of them black or hispanic of course to keep it PC—plus the right justices would have to die to make it possible, but it’s the only way.
I doubt we would have aborion-rights in too many states without Roe v Wade, and I doubt we’ll have gay marriage in too many if this movement continues to rely on popular opinion and begging for sympathy rather than a wider concept of individual rights.
Just to address gay objectivists on this forum : I feel your pain, in fact we all do, because our rights are violated too by the government, every day.
However, I think even suggesting that your’s are violated more is going too far: What if somebody here is a straight billionaire? Isn’t he loosing more than you do, even though you’re not allowed to marry? What if someone’s a patient who is hoping for embrionic stem cell research to find a cure in time?
I don’t think you should feel more opressed because you are gay: we are all part of some minority which is being treated unfairly, whether we are businessmen or cab drivers (who’s fees are capped by the cities).
If you were not allowed to be gay period, that would be a different story entirely, of course.(I’ll just say that to prevent anyone arguing in that direction)