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  1. Wow, this sounds cool, I'll definitely be checking it out.
  2. When I say adult, I mean like a 30 year old or anyone over 26. I think a 10 year age difference is creepy, no offense. 5 or a few more years after that is pushing it but 10 or more can be called creepy. When I was in high school, many of the other girls talked about seducing the tall, rather decent looking male teachers that were all married with kids and I'm sorry but I think that's way creepy. It's one thing to fantasize in your head but to actually be serious is just weird and delusional. Many teenage girls also do that with sport coaches or counselors at co-ed camps and sometimes it e
  3. If I had the gene test done to test for porphyria, I might have had a case, but it is just on the verge of being too late, and the testing is very difficult and expensive. It just makes me very angry to think of all that happened to me and how I was mislead and pushed around.
  4. It didn't turn out the way my sister wanted, and that's mostly what upset me. I would have liked to see all of her good friends from law school and her other close friends see her and I would have liked it if people had done what they said they were going to do, so my sister could have relaxed and worried about things like her hair and makeup. I felt uncomfortable because I didn't know what to do and I knew people were gossiping about and judging my sister and the rest of my family. The mother in law almost kind of reminds me of Lily in Atlas Shrugged, so I guess ignoring these people is th
  5. You're right that relatives aren't always like that because they're religious, but they do use religious basis for their invasive actions and it absolves them from any guilt, which makes it hard to hold them responsible for it. That's what I was trying to say but I didn't articulate it very well, it is a very complicated situation. Feeling uncomfortable is an emotion, and I was only trying to monitor the roots of why I feel that emotion and rationalize it. I don't really make that big of a deal out of it and I never meant to imply that I want to be invasive in her decision making, but I d
  6. When I find someone I love, I intend to get married in a church, not because I feel like I have to be traditional, but because I would be most comfortable with it and it has a certain charm to it that makes a wedding special. However, I do NOT intend to allow a preacher to make an altruist speech that has nothing to do with my values. Preferably, the person who marries us must not be religious in any way, but I may not be able to find someone who does that and I may have to compromise. You should not feel uncomfortable at your wedding ceremony, it should be about the people's values who are
  7. My sister is probably not religious in any way, but she NEVER says anything about her personal beliefs around my parents so I can't say for sure. I think I may have asked her one time if she believes in creationism or God and she said no I don't think so. She had a very diverse group of friends in college, hindus, jews, muslims, mormons, catholics etc. and would make a lot of comments about how weird some things were in their culture. She is very naive and good naturedly accepts that her husband is religious like it's a fact of life and it's ok. She is either confused and subconsciously ac
  8. I understand that, but the people who are "just doing the best they can" are confused and think they have to trust based on faith what they are told (ie. maybe by tyrannical parents or friends or relatives) and that's why it's immoral to lie by pretending to pray or accept religion in any way. The people who are naturally rational because of their cognitive abilities and experiences just learn that it's something they have to accept in order to get by in life and they feel guilt and self hatred for their intelligence. If everyone that is rational is disengenous about what they really believe
  9. I didn't say it had an "evil" effect, it just makes me feel uncomfortable, that almost all the people around me probably believe those things and expect anyone they would respect to be the same way. It does have an evil effect on others you care about to lie though. If no one takes a stand against mysticism things will miserable in a lot of ways. It is never rational to lie that way, because the effects it has on society will come back to you. They act like it is a "necessity" to be selfless (even though they don't even really practice what they preach lol) and be good church goers like the
  10. Whenever I go to a wedding and a rehearsal dinner where everyone prays and the preacher makes some evil speech about self sacrifice, that no one is perfect, and how self interest doesn't matter I quietly don't participate but their immoralities make me very uncomfortable and I begin to feel unsure of myself even though I'm perfectly aware of the truth (that perfection can be achieved, that real love is selfish etc.). When people pray I ignore what they say and don't put my head down because I don't think it's right to pretend that thanking the lord for everything you have done from your own i
  11. It's a love hate attraction. Physical beauty is a value, like anything else and I do value that more than anything else in life, because I have an artist archetype. Physical beauty in a man is a material value to me, like something you work hard to get a big salary so you can pay for kind of thing. It's a sexual comfort, which is just like any other physical comfort, the comfort of your home or car, the taste of the food you eat etc. How good food tastes is definitely more important to some people than it is to others, and so that's why physical beauty in the opposite sex is more important
  12. Well, you can't blame me for thinking that someone's ideas are stupid and immature if they think airline companies should reduce their prices to help poor people get cheap transportation, companies should keep hiring people until they go bankrupt etc. and they just whine and play the victim is situations where their incompetence becomes apparent. He decieves me a lot, leads me on and says he's going to be rational, and then comes back when I'm physically attracted to him and emotionally attached and starts talking about all this wacky religious stuff. That's only part of it, I will refrain
  13. Well of course, maybe I should have used the word "lead" but I think it's kind of a weak word. It feels good when you feel so safe and comfortable with a man that you can just be passive and enjoy him taking care of you sexually and protection wise because you trust him and your values are the same. If the guy is the jerk type it doesn't work though and most are in some form or another. To me it looks like a display of manliness, but to him it isn't, because he's just being what he is. I'm letting him assert his masculinity over me, so yeah it is kind of like a display of manliness, but no
  14. I didn't mean dominate in the way you think, I meant sexually dominant, which is really just a display of manliness. Some women like to feel like they're being dominated it feels intimate, like you really want them. However, being sexually dominant can be a dangerous game, and can easily be unpleasant both emotionally and physically, even for a woman who likes it that way so it's only for the experienced or between serious couples IMO. And when I say "experienced" the man has to pick up on or understand signals and what the woman wants emotionally, and men like that are few and far between.
  15. Some people are better in the bedroom than others. Some people are used to very good technique and average technique sucks to them. This matters more to women than it does to men, because men dominate so the woman's technique doesn't matter as much, or at least it SHOULDN'T, but I've heard a lot of neo age weirdos who think both the man and woman should be perfectly "equal" in how they please the other person. Nature wants the man to take over physically because the man is more psychologically set up to do so and gets things done more quickly, and that is what is most physically pleasing to
  16. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2068218/Vienna-sex-school-opens-Yes-practical-lessons.html?ITO=1490 I think this is a potentially very creepy but fascinating idea. If it had a strict age limit for co-ed classes like 18-25, 25-30 etc. and very careful STD testing I think it could be a helpful thing for college virgins and people with just very poor technique to become better lovers. I also think that the teachers should be within the age limit of the students they're teaching, otherwise it's just creepy as hell. College age teenage girls would use it to hit on good looking, adult
  17. Dreamspirit

    Traffic Laws

    No, you were not listening. The cop did not tell me he had a monthly quota lol. I told other people I know who happen to know about cops around here and they told me that they do have a monthly quota to fill. I asked them if the city was short on money right now because I saw many, many cop cars setting up traps those last days in November and the vicinity of the police car that stopped me doesn't usually make rounds in the area that I was in. Yeah, that's the way bureacracy's are, there are so many stupid little rules in order to accomodate incompetence or convenience. Traffic laws d
  18. Dreamspirit

    Traffic Laws

    What makes you think I don't already know that the vicinity that gave me the ticket has a monthly quota? I know because people who work in it told people I know. It seems like it would be almost impossible for an underage person to have been drinking during the daylight hours. The under 21 people who do drink and drive almost always do it at night, like after a party. He knew very well that I wasn't, that's why he didn't give me a breath test. I didn't say it was invasive and wasn't in his right to do so, but he could obviously see that I was just a scared ditzy blonde. I think he was
  19. Dreamspirit

    Traffic Laws

    I just got pulled over today for the first time for supposedly tailgating a school bus (I was like 20 feet away and going 25 mph on the highway but whatever) and on top of that, because I didn't pull over right away, he asked me if I'd "had something to drink." At 2:30 PM? Really? I just didn't want to pull over on a tight ramp on a hill, especially because it would be a danger getting out. I was also really scared because his car wasn't marked and I thought it was one of those scam police officers so I was debating on what to do. It's the end of the month, trying to fill their quota I gue
  20. She said word for word that she holds their primitive culture against them, and I agree with her. If they don't follow that culture then obviously I wouldn't still judge them because of their racial or familial background, now that would be immoral. Colonial South African culture is basically a culture with no achievements, it consists of them benefiting from the forceful enslavement of the native negroids. Any hint of achievement in their culture is something they copied from the Europeans they descend from. It shows in how they treat people, their way of phrasing things etc. and it is ab
  21. I don't like their culture, just like Ayn Rand disliked muslim culture. I'm not judging anyone by their background, I'm judging them by their behavior, and that includes following a culture that I dislike if they're over 18. I don't follow Polish or neo European American stuff and if I did I'd give you the right to judge me. I don't greet people with those annoying invasion of your space hugs and so on.
  22. People do not become angry and neutral about alienating others for no reason. I was discriminated against for so many years before I started becoming angry. Being discriminated against is one of the most common reasons people come to distrust others. I'm a stickler for morality, perhaps this is why you and the people around me are so focused on degrading me. You should check your thinking on this, because your post sounds idiotic. You answered your own question. I was a brittle, angry person when I was 10, 12?
  23. It is a personal issue she is giving me advice for, and she does not know me personally, so how does she think her advice can be rational? It is so like a typical South African to respond in such a way. You say now now you out of line slave, stay in your place without taking your thick head out of your ass to think. I laugh when your crappy country has an apartheid because you are just so proud and delusional you don't see how ridiculous you are.
  24. Well, you don't know much about me personally, so you shouldn't be giving this kind of advice. I never asked for advice or a psychologizer to come in here and tell me what I am. You really should check your premises.
  25. Why is it more of a fun experience than doing those things with a man you love? How is living on your own any more independent than with somebody you're in love with? I think you just didn't find a person who you actually are in love with. I didn't mean to imply that I was going to become a housewife right away. Living with someone you love sexually when you start out on your own is very beneficial to productivity for both emotional and practical reasons. For some personal reasons, it is especially better for me. Two people managing all the finances, repairs, cleaning etc. is much better
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