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  1. Most men grossly underestimate their power to bring excitement into a woman’s life. To make a woman ecstatically happy isn’t necessarily difficult — in fact, it can be astonishingly easy. It requires that a man take the time to cultivate his personality and character, and that he expand his awareness by making romance a course of study. A woman isn’t so much impressed by what a man does for her per se; she is moved by the man he is — by whom and what she experiences when she is with him. The only thing that matters to a woman in a romantic context, is the emotional impact that a man’s presence has upon her. A woman falls in love with a man who inspires confidence in her. The unspoken motto of the masculine man is: “I got it — I have this.” He exudes a core competence — at life in general, and in his ability to deal effectively with the opposite sex. This type of confidence be extremely attractive to a woman. The feeling of being with a man who knows what he’s doing permits a woman to relax, and let down her guard. Every woman longs for the experience, however momentary, of being able to set aside her burden — to temporarily abandon external focus, and lose her concern with the outside world — and turn inward, exploring and experiencing the feminine, feeling aspects of her soul. When a man can communicate: “Tonight, I’m in charge of reality. Your only task is only to receive, respond and feel” — it can have the effect of lifting a psychological sandbag from her soul. It lightens her body, liberating her loving feelings. I call this experience masculine leadership, because it involves a man accepting responsibility, taking charge, and literally leading the way, guiding both of them to ever-greater heights of intimacy and romantic enjoyment. (This is an article I wrote for my new blog about romance & relationships, The Leading Man.)
  2. While I'm sure your project is well-intentioned, what you describe sounds dreadfully propagandistic. Strictly speaking, this is an impossible assignment. Philosophy is an adult discipline; you cannot instill an understanding of Objectivist ethics — or any ethical system, for that matter — in a young child, let alone expect to accomplish it in a bedtime tale. What you can do is create a story that is in effect rational, and is enjoyable to read, that illustrates or dramatizes a single, relatively noncomplex and uncontroversial idea. The importance of thinking is one possibility, or the virtue of industriousness. Whether you're writing a children's book or an adult novel, you need to focus first on creating an engaging story. Too many Objectivist writers think it's their duty to create a philosophic screed dressed up as a work of art. Ayn Rand didn't do that, and you shouldn't either. I can't conceive of anything more horrifying than an "Objectivist primer." If such a thing existed, any child who was given one would be fully justified in burning it, and running away from home, in my opinion.
  3. I at least partially defined the terms in my post above. The nice guy is eager to please a woman — perhaps excessively so. The "bad boy" is, at root, an antisocial jerk. A gentleman — this is what I'm most interested to hear from women about! What is your definition of this kind of man? What are some of his key characteristics?
  4. There is nothing wrong with enjoying another's person's beauty, their personality, and the spirit of life that they project. You have an inalienable right to your feelings, and to your entire emotional universe. You must never, ever feel guilty about the fact that you experience something emotionally. This is triply true when your feelings are essentially positive: You like somebody, you feel drawn to them. Presumably, in your mind, they represent values which relate to important aspects of you. To ignore your reactions (or worse, to curse yourself for having them) would be an act of self-sabotage and self-repudiation. In the eyes of the law and of society, a relationship with the person you describe would be inappropriate at this point in time. But so long as you aren't taking action on your feelings, you have nothing to be ashamed of. You might be correct in assuming that you're not her "type." But why do you say you're not good enough for her? Do you often feel like you're not "good enough" for women whom you find yourself attracted to?
  5. It's fine with me if you want to discuss the topic here. In fact, I'll give you a third type to add to the mix: The "nice guy." The nice guy is eager to please a woman — perhaps excessively so. It's a common lament: Men complain that women say they want "nice guys," but they wind up with jerks, abusers, and a-holes. What's a hero to do? Is there a different alternative? I say there is. A man can study romantic love, develop his own character, and follow the Way of the Gentleman. I'm excited to hear from women on this! (If men want to chime in as well, I suppose I can't stop you. )
  6. What is the appeal of "bad boys"? Why are so many women — particularly young women — drawn to the bad boy type, even though a relationship with this kind of man is inevitably doomed? Join me for this free, live & interactive discussion, in which we'll talk about what makes bad boys so alluring, and what distinguishes them from a gentleman. I will have very little to say, so I'm counting on ladies to tune in & speak up! The Webinar happens this Sunday, 11/4 at 6 p.m. Pacific / 8 p.m. Central / 9 p.m. Eastern. Go here to RSVP: https://www3.gotomee...ister/566748422 PLEASE NOTE: If you're a guy, you're welcome to join the Webinar & listen. However only women will be allowed to come on live & talk with me.
  7. I was in a restaurant a few months ago here in Los Angeles, and Danny DeVito was at the next table over with his family. Talk about short — this guy is maybe an inch taller than a Hobbit! As far as I can tell, Danny DeVito's lack of physical stature hasn't in any way impeded his scaling the heights of success in Hollywood. As for the opposite sex... It doesn't really matter how tall you are when you're lying down, now does it?
  8. Grow up, stop drinking so much, and stop attending these ridiculous parties.
  9. We've all heard the expression "Love takes time." How much time — and what type of it — does love require? In this free, live & interactive Webinar, I want to hear from women about the role that time plays in a successful romantic relationship. What does it mean to spend "quality time" together? Is there such a thing as spending too much time with someone you love? I'll take live "calls" from listeners — plug in your mic, or you can connect via phone. Both women and men are welcome to attend & listen, and everyone can participate in our chat room. However, only women will be allowed to speak with me live & share their thoughts! Our Webinar happens on Saturday, January 21st 2012 at 12 noon Pacific Time / 2 p.m. Central / 3 p.m. Eastern. It's free to attend — RSVP here: https://www3.gotomeeting.com/register/365981806
  10. What does it mean for a man to "be a man"? Join me for this free, live & interactive Webinar, in which we'll talk about masculinity — what it means, what it does not mean, and how it pertains to romantic love & happiness. Is a masculine man a tough guy? One with something to prove to the world? What does it mean for men to be sensitive and caring? Why are women often (it seems) attracted to bad boys and jerks? If you're a member of the fairer sex, I'd like to hear from you! I'll take live "calls" from listeners — plug in your mic, or connect via phone. Both women and men are welcome to attend & listen, and everyone can participate in our chat room. However, ONLY women will be allowed to speak with me live & share their thoughts! Our Webinar happens on Sunday, January 15th at 10 a.m. Pacific Time / 12 noon Central / 1 p.m. Eastern. It's free to attend — RSVP at http://RomanceWebinars.com
  11. Free Live Webinar — "The Meaning of Romance" Sunday, January 8, 2012 7 p.m. Pacific / 9 p.m. Central / 10 p.m. Eastern http://WealthyBohemi.../RomanceWebinar I must make a somewhat awkward confession. I don't know what the word romance means. Apparently I need a lot of help in this area. In fact, I only learned to spell & pronounce "romance" about 14 minutes ago. Live Webinars have helped me to make sense of things in the past. Why not now? Since women are smarter than men, I've decided to be sexist and forbid members of the male species from offering their thoughts. Only women will be able to speak. (Men will permitted to nod silently, and take copious notes.) The Webinar will be like a radio call-in show. You can talk to me live via your computer or phone. Or you can type stuff & I'll see it. I'm really dying to hear the thoughts of ladies on this topic. What does romance mean to you? To register for the free Webinar, visit http://WealthyBohemi.../RomanceWebinar
  12. If you asked the average Hollywood type why he does what he does, and you could somehow be guaranteed an honest answer, he'd tell you it's because it's what his friends do — it's what those he's trying to impress are doing. It's "in" to be a liberal in Hollywood. Supporting liberal causes and spouting liberal rhetoric is how you show those around you that you're one of the gang. Many so-called "creatives" are anything but. They don't invent, so much as they cling, copy & regurgitate. Liberalism isn't difficult to grasp; it's the lessons of Sunday school told in slightly more sophisticated language. Liberalism allows vapid people to feel moral — albeit in a smug, self-righteous way. It affords them the opportunity to feel that they're "making a difference" in the world, while enjoying a level of status above those they claim to be concerned about. Liberalism is an antidote to anxiety & guilt. Successful people often experience anxiety — and virtually no one who makes money today is proud of it. Most of the people in Hollywood (particularly those at the top) are not serious thinkers. Not necessarily unintelligent, just not at all concerned about important philosophic issues. Combine non-thinking with neurosis & extreme second-handedness, and you have a formula for a thoroughly collectivized mindset.
  13. What exactly does this company/co-operative/organization do? (Or is that also determined by the crowd?) It sounds like one.
  14. That's right up there with "Having a child can save a failing marriage."
  15. How do you feel (sexually) about women you can't stand?
  16. I give nihilists exactly what they ask for, which is
  17. I've listed Leonard Peikoff's "Principles of Grammar" course on eBay: Click here to view the auction 16 CD's, 20 hours with exercise booklet. Auction ends on Sunday, November 28th.
  18. The only appropriate response to this is: Speak for yourself.
  19. It's incredible what some men are willing to put up with from women who are beautiful. Ask yourself: If I observed this same behavior in a potential business partner, would I even remotely consider going into business with them?
  20. Are you really an Objectivist, or are you just trying to be fashionable?
  21. Rational people can be confused as hell — that doesn't give them the right to lie, and to fake emotional commitments they don't really feel. I won't comment on your relationship, but what does "sex was involved, etc." mean? In an important sense, another person's character is not my business. I evaluate (and judge) their actions. He should try to reform her?
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