flatlander Posted February 4, 2011 Report Share Posted February 4, 2011 For me, the most beautiful non-physical attribute a woman can possess would have to be positive self esteem. This incorporates a positive sense of life, intelligence, rationality and honesty. My wife has always had great self esteem, she simply radiates it whether she's laughing and having fun or coolly appraising an unfamiliar situation. The corollary here is that the most ugly non-physical attribute a woman can have is negative self esteem. If she is negative about herself; constantly seeking validation from others, spiteful and envious; this makes her immensely unattractive. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flatlander Posted February 4, 2011 Report Share Posted February 4, 2011 There are many non-physical attributes that attract a woman to me, several of which have already been mentioned. In no particular order: Sense of Humor - Love of Laughter Ability to Dance Confidence in her Sexuality Feminine in her Response to Aggressiveness (tied to the above) Good Natured / Kind Loves Children and Animals Aesthetic Sophistication (something I don't have) Thinly Veiled, Compulsive Nymphomania There are many more, but that's a good start. --Dan Edge Great list, Dan. I agree fully. Though given my completely nonexistent dancing ability, I consider an ability to dance to be a non-essential (though entirely welcome) attribute in a woman. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alfa Posted February 4, 2011 Report Share Posted February 4, 2011 A noble spirit; fire, pride, grace and dignity. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dingbat Posted February 4, 2011 Report Share Posted February 4, 2011 Keen social observation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VeritasVulnero Posted February 4, 2011 Report Share Posted February 4, 2011 Love of self which equates to confidence, love of life, and motivation. And in the case of my female counterpart, goes hand in hand with rationality Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
intellectualammo Posted February 4, 2011 Report Share Posted February 4, 2011 (edited) Thinly Veiled, Compulsive Nymphomania This one is definately NOT on my list. Mutual value affinity is an absolute must. “I could not be happy with a man whose taste did not in every point coincide with my own.” - Marianne from Jane Austen’s Sense and Sensibility Edited February 4, 2011 by intellectualammo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tomer Ravid Posted February 4, 2011 Report Share Posted February 4, 2011 (edited) You said a beautiful attribute, not a basic virtue, so I`d say feminity, and perhaps happiness and independence contained in it : EDIT: Of course these all are methods of sense of life---sense of life is not a personal attribute but the sum of them and the nature of them. Edited February 4, 2011 by Tomer Ravid Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dan_edge Posted February 5, 2011 Report Share Posted February 5, 2011 (edited) This one is definately NOT on my list. How about, instead of nymphomania, just -- someone who enjoys having sex very, very frequently? Is it frequent sex to which you object, or my (playful) use of that term? --Dan Edge Edited February 5, 2011 by dan_edge Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EC Posted February 5, 2011 Report Share Posted February 5, 2011 getting along life fine and having no worries at any problems. I've never met anyone that meets that description. To answer the question--intelligence. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SapereAude Posted February 5, 2011 Report Share Posted February 5, 2011 Courage is the the seed from which all other virtues grow. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FrolicsomeQuipster Posted February 7, 2011 Report Share Posted February 7, 2011 Uncompromising determination. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DancingBear Posted February 7, 2011 Report Share Posted February 7, 2011 I was originally going to say intuition, which I define as a penchant for abstraction. I make very large leaps from idea to idea, so I need somebody that can keep up. I've decided that independence is more attractive however. I need symbiosis, not parasitism. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
icosahedron Posted February 7, 2011 Report Share Posted February 7, 2011 Rational passion. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iudicious Posted February 7, 2011 Report Share Posted February 7, 2011 (edited) Curiosity. I love a girl who is curious about the world, about what she can do in it and about all the things that can be accomplished and seen and enjoyed. Curiosity coupled with ambition is simply fantastic to see in a person. I don't need an extreme level of intelligence - I don't mind taking the time to explain myself, and I'm not elitist enough to believe myself inherently better just because I might grasp a concept faster than someone else. I don't need her to share the same ambitions or be the definition of rationally selfish and independent per Objectivism. What I want is someone who has a curiosity and ambition for life, someone who wants to know more, and wants to share more, and wants to do more. I love the feeling of inspecting something new and getting to know it and hungering for more. I need someone who can share that feeling with me. Edit: Upon looking back, I find it slightly interesting that I'm the only one who chose curiosity. Edited February 7, 2011 by Iudicious Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eiuol Posted February 7, 2011 Report Share Posted February 7, 2011 (edited) Edit: Upon looking back, I find it slightly interesting that I'm the only one who chose curiosity. I did actually, or at least, it's pretty important. Perhaps I didn't simply say curiosity because I usually equate curiosity with intelligence anyway. I mean, to be curious I would think is usually fueled by wanting to understand things well, which also would imply an interest in ideas. Edited February 7, 2011 by Eiuol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snipawolf Posted July 23, 2011 Report Share Posted July 23, 2011 (edited) Strong standards/self-esteem. I don't like overly sensitive or emotional people, nor do I like couch potatoes and people who intend on doing a whole lot of nothing with their lives. Someone with strong standards won't let themselves get obese, won't fall into mental decay, and just generally won't be put down by anyone or anything. (S)he has to be strong and not allow him/herself to be bested. (S)he has to overcome. A strong person without standards is worthless, and a weak person with standards doesn't have the will to enforce them. Edited July 23, 2011 by Snipawolf Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoldenSilence33 Posted July 23, 2011 Report Share Posted July 23, 2011 I like rationality, and with that comes honesty. Despite that, I want her to be able to love in the warm, tender sense of the word. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JASKN Posted July 23, 2011 Report Share Posted July 23, 2011 I think this thread could also be titled as, "What's a brief description of your personality?" That is the flipside of the things one finds attractive in another person, physicality included. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daniellecs Posted August 31, 2011 Report Share Posted August 31, 2011 I think that confidence and self esteem are the most appealing things in a human being. I think that if a person have both on a high level, it doesn't really matter how they look like, I'd still find them attractive. I can't stand people that feel sorry for them-self all the time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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